[Idontneedaname]

We ended horribly. I lied and she lied. In the end, while I was working hard to fix us, she left. It's been a year but it feels like we've been together for over ten years.

When she 'gave up' on us, she broke up with me but kept in contact. She was hanging out with this guy who she said has always wanted to date her. She remained loyal to me and stopped communication with him before to ease my worries. She also said she could never leave me and would never date or sleep with anyone else, and that she belonged to me for her entire life.

But then she told me she was seeing this guy, who she was suppose to not be talking to. Note that she denied dating him, but was only 'seeing' him and basically giving all her time and attention to him just one to two days after our breakup.

One night, we actually got close again and I thought she was ready to try. But then she slept with him the next day. I was hurt and devastated. Why would she make those promises telling me that it would always be only me?

So I cried it out alone and told her I was going to move on. Then she wanted to try again. After a long time of thinking things through, I told myself I can get over it since I love her and she will ease my pain by showing commitment.

But then she told me she slept with him more than once.. and now she is pregnant. We fought again and right now... I still cry at times. But most of the time, I feel so dead. She is going to keep the baby too and I don't blame her. I didn't eat for a week nor got proper sleep until I talked it out with my friend and felt better.

It's been around two weeks since then and she still misses me and loves me. She tells me it was reckless, it wasn't like her to do that, and it was her attempts to move on but failed. While all I did was wait for her to just talk things out with me.. I didn't even talk to any other girls or flirt either.

What made me hurt and mad even more was that she partially blames me for her reckless actions. Saying how if it wasn't for me, or the pain I caused her before she made her mistakes (she caused similar pain to me btw), that this wouldn't have happened.

I don't know if she's happy about her new baby either. She says she has no feelings for the father of the child and she'll raise the kid alone. I want to be with her, but the mere fact of her having sex with someone else made me go into depression... and now the same man gave her a baby..

I don't know what I should do. I love her, but I'm unsure if I'd ever accept her baby.

[talaniman]

When you have had enough of the lying you will have to decide what to do about it. You have enough facts to make a decision, to try yet again, or simply get your own self under complete control so you can weigh your options... WITHOUT ANY INFLUENCE FROM HER WHATSOEVER.

That's where you screwed up before, believing her lies, and half truths. Just don't ever make that mistake again, and let her deal with her new baby, and the daddy who will be in there lives until the child grows up. Figure 18 years at least. Stopping all or any contact will help you get your head on correctly, so you can contemplate, and evaluate the FACT, and make a decision for yourself based on FACTS, and not just FEELINGS.

Then at least you can figure out whats best for YOU, and not anyone else.

[vanheart]

What are you crazy?

I say run, & far away.

[Idontneedaname]

I know it should seem like I should get over her, but I know she is sorry and it was a mistake. She loves me still, but right now... I'm so lost on things.

[vanheart]

See that's where you are wrong.

Putting words in her mouth.

If those things "she said" were true, she would be in your arms right now. Not with someone elses' baby.

That isn't the case. Now, is it?

C'mon, Idontneedaname .

What you really dontneedisher.

You will thank yourself later, believe me. You don't need this baby drama from some girl that didn't want you from the get go.

You guys split. Period.

What? Do you think your are going to make it right by helping her now?

You will regret it.

BTW, you are half to blame for your relationship, but not after you split. You guys were single.
That's what split is.

Split.