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    janeramirez Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 29, 2011, 04:57 PM
    Why does my boyfriend spend so much time with kids?
    I have been dateing this guy for almost a year but I don't see him much am in school and work during the day and every weeked comes he has his kids. What do I do? I just want to spend time by ourselves once in a while, but he thinks its normal and I don't.
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    Aug 29, 2011, 05:29 PM
    His kids come first, always. That is normal, and you shouldn't try to come between that because you want more time with him.

    Why not spend time with him and the kids, or make time during the week when he doesn't have his kids. He only sees them on the weekends, and they are his priority, and always will be. You will never be first. If that's what you want, then I'd suggest dating a guy that does have children.
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    Aug 29, 2011, 07:06 PM
    He only gets his kids I will assume on the weekend, so in his divorce he gave up all though the week.

    Perhaps he may ask, why is your school or your job so important to you?

    He is a package deal and this is the way you will date. If you can't accept this as the way it is, time to find a new guy and do the kids justice bynot allowing them to get attached to you too much if you are not going to be there for them also
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    Aug 30, 2011, 08:46 PM
    Wow. You know what? It is hard to find a guy these days that is dedicated to their kids like that. Rather than look at that as a plus for him, it bothers you. That, to me, is just sad. I think it's great that he values his children that much. I understand you may want to be alone with him now and then but rather than being annoyed about this, you should look at it on a good side.
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    Aug 30, 2011, 08:49 PM
    The really sad part is that he only gets his kids on the weekend. She has him to herself the other 5 days of the week, but apparently that's not enough.

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