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Cherries · Feb 15, 2007, 12:37 PM

Okay where to start... okay my friend thinks she might be pragnet and she thinks it been over to months but, anyway. If she is then what am I supposed to say to her because I have never had a friend that was pragnet, and I 14, 15, or 16.:confused: help I need to know what to do.

shelley7180 · Feb 15, 2007, 12:58 PM

The first thing your friend needs to take a pregnancy test. If it is positive, then she needs to go to her doctor or Planned Parenthood. (They will have her do another test to be sure.) If she is, then all you can do is support her decision no matter what is, and be a good friend.
If she is not, then you need to encourage her to STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX!! Come on, it's not that hard to get birth control. Planned Parenthood or a similar organization will provide it for free, and they don't tell your parents. There is no excuse, other than laziness. Better yet, just wait until you're at least old enough to vote.

shelley7180 · Feb 15, 2007, 01:00 PM

Originally Posted by Cherries

okay where to start...okay my friend thinks she might be pragnet and she thinks it been over to months but, anyways. if she is then what am i supposed to say to her because i have never had a friend that was pragnet, and i 14, 15, or 16.:confused: help i need to know what to do.

Oh, one more thing. Learn how to spell. If you can't spell pregnancy, then you or your friend, do not need to have sex.

Cherries · Feb 15, 2007, 01:15 PM

Originally Posted by shelley7180

The first thing your friend needs to take a pregnancy test. If it is positive, then she needs to go to her doctor or Planned Parenthood. (They will have her do another test to be sure.) If she is, then all you can do is support her decision no matter what is, and be a good friend.
If she is not, then you need to encourage her to STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX!!!! Come on, it's not that hard to get birth control. Planned Parenthood or a similar organization will provide it for free, and they don't tell your parents. There is no excuse, other than laziness. Better yet, just wait until you're at least old enough to vote.

I just found out that she thinks she's pregnant. And I've tried to tell all of my friends to have safe SEX!! I mean I can't be there with her at the moment and give them a condom.

buggage · Feb 15, 2007, 01:37 PM

Agreed, you shouldn't have to be there to keep reminding her. If she can't use her own common sense, she won't listen to yours either. If she is pregnant, you don't have to support her having unprotected sex, or caudle her in any way. Be her friend in every way you have been, but if she is upset about it, and worried, remember it is no ones fault but her own. All you can do is be her friend, and try to keep talking sense to her. She is your friend, but not your obligation. You aren't her mother, and therefore, don't feel guilty that you can't help her, or protect her. People make mistakes. Hopefully she isn't pregnant at such a young age, and she use this as a learning expereince.

Cherries · Feb 16, 2007, 12:49 PM

Originally Posted by buggage

agreed, you shouldnt have to be there to keep reminding her. If she can't use her own common sense, she wont listen to yours either. If she is pregnant, you dont have to support her having unprotected sex, or caudle her in any way. Be her friend in every way you have been, but if she is upset about it, and worried, remember it is no ones fault but her own. All you can do is be her friend, and try to keep talkin sense to her. She is your friend, but not your obligation. you arent her mother, and therefore, dont feel guilty that you can't help her, or protect her. people make mistakes. Hopefully she isnt pregnant at such a young age, and she use this as a learning expereince.

I know I can't protect her and that's fine with me but you know what yah your right its is her falt for not having safe sex. But her mom doesn't even know about her having sex, and I'm not going to be the one to tell her. I told her if she is pregnant she needs to tell her mom. But I don't know if she will. I haven't tlk to her since I found out that she thought.:confused:

Cherries · Feb 16, 2007, 12:50 PM

Originally Posted by shelley7180

Oh, one more thing. Learn how to spell. If you can't spell pregnancy, then you or your friend, do not need to have sex.

I can spell but when I am typing on the computer I tend to not spell things right. Oh yah and a nother thing is I AM NOT HAVING SEX.

kanicky73 · Feb 16, 2007, 01:12 PM

Cherries, I am so glad to hear that your not having sex. I think too many young people today slip through the cracks and don't get the knowledge they so desperately need. I think at this point you shouldn't concern yourself so much with her life and what is going on in it. If she is pregnant her mother will find out sooner or later if she decides to have the baby. That is not for you to worry about or concern yourself so much with. You need to worry about keeping yourself safe and your education because without it you don't stand a chance. Try to focus more on what is going on in your life and the decisions you are making about your own life and not worry so much about every one else.

shelley7180 · Feb 16, 2007, 01:25 PM

I'm sorry that was uncalled for. Not that this is an excuse, but I wasn't trying to be mean I just get a little cranky when teenagers are having babies. Here's a little tip: I know there is not a spell check when you post a question, here's what you can do. Copy & Paste the post into a Word doc, and spell check it from there. Then you can Copy & Paste it back.

On another note, congrats for the abstinence. That's AWESOME. No matter what your friends say, or what you think everyone is doing stay that way. At least until you get out of high school. I'm not going to give you that 'wait until you're married crap'! If you decide not to wait then protect yourself with birth control AND a condom. Getting pregnant is not the worst thing that can happen with unprotected sex, a disease that can KILL you is. If your friend is not pregnant, maybe you should tell her that. The best years of your life are still waiting, and I don't think you want to miss out because of some silly sex. If she thinks it can't happen to her, she's wrong. I lost my best friend to a sexually transmitted disease. She was a good student, didn't do drugs, was pretty, had a nice house and car. A regular girl. She just had unprotected sex with the wrong person, and that one moment of stupidity cost her everything.

Again, KUDOS for not having sex! That's something to be proud of. Especially when your friends are doing it.

buggage · Feb 16, 2007, 01:25 PM

It sounds like you are a very smart and responsible young lady. Your friend could learn a lot from you. You are right, you shouldn't be the one to have to tell her mom. And as kanicky said, her mom will find out sooner or later, if she is pregnant. Not something you can hide for long. I commend you for be safe and responsible, and having enough respect for yourself, not to throw it all away.