[Huniebunie]

Im 26 and recently found out I am pregnant. I had a blood test to confirm it. I told my boyfriend, and he wanted me to have an abortion, although he was just telling me last week that he would like another child. (he has 2 from a previous marriage, I have 1) so a week goes by, and I find out I'm pregnant, I tell him, and he said 'i wanted another kid, but not this soon' he wanted me to have an abortion, I told him no. if I have an abortion, it will make him happy, but I don't want to resent him for the rest of my life. Now 3 days have gone by, and he won't speak to me. We used to talk or text throughout the work day... but he won't even respond to my texts or calls. Its like he disappeared off the face of the earth... but still manages to post on Facebook? Im trying to give him the benefit of the doubt... but its hard. Do you think he'll contact me eventually?

[Fr_Chuck]

He is being childish, pouting to try and get his way. Ignore him, and who cares ( sorry but you have to think long term)

If this would cause him to mistreat you, are you perhaps better off without him ?

But on the other hand, yes in a couple weeks, he may come around, if not, he can pay child support and day care for the child.

[Huniebunie]

He ended up texting me yesterday after I texted him notifying him that I will be putting him on child support after the baby is born. Then he tried to butter me up and say he missed me but needed time to think. Again, today, he has disappeared and I refuse to call him or text him anymore. Is it selfish of me to have told him that he should have let me know up front that he needed space, instead of just ignoring me? Hes telling me that I'm jumping to conclusions and its hard being with me if I think like that. I understand that, but how can a man just ignore his pregnant girlfriend and expect her to be OK with it? Am I in the wrong?

[Wondergirl]

What does he need space for?

What are you jumping to conclusions about?

[Alty]

He doesn't want a child, and that's making him act like a child.

Instead of being supportive, and helping you through this, he's being a big baby himself, and walking away.

You both made this child. Like it or not he will have to support it. He doesn't have to be with you, but he will have to pay.

Ignore him. Who cares if he comes back? He's making it very clear that when the going gets tough, he runs away. That's not someone that you have a future with.

[Huniebunie]

He said he needed space and time to think about what he's going to do.

I told him that I felt like he abandoned me when I needed him the most, and he apologized that I 'felt that way' and told me its hard being with someone who always jumps to conclusions.

Alenweg, thank you. I just needed to hear that I wasn't asking for too much. He has done a disappearing act today, and I'm sure I won't be hearing from him for a while. It makes me sad to think he just doesn't care.

[talaniman]

My dear, he is just trying you to make you do this his way. Ignore him, because what will be the real test is how he responds once he knows you will not have an abortion, thus relieving him of any responsibilities for his actions. Yes that's right, he is trying to manipulate YOUR actions, and decisions. Don't fall for it, stick to your guns, and what's best for you, and your coming child, and NOT worry about the actions of the sperm donor.

But don't ignore his behavior, let him think about it. If he comes to you as a man, that's great. If he comes to you as a BOY, that's just as good, because now you will know what you have to do as a woman, and mother.

What female wants a BOY to build a life with, and help raise kids??