[Sup3rM0m]

My boyfriend and I separated 2 and a half months ago. We had agreed to live separately to work on our problems. There were a lot of issues with pornography, and lies. I started to see a councilor and he said he would too. He didn't.

He moved his brother in to help out with financial matters (he was struggling) after I left. His ex starting calling all the time and stopping by. Yes, I was worried, even though he had always told me that he had never really loved her and was not attracted to her, but they do share a child.

His brother decided to move away because he met someone, and then I found out that his ex was staying the night and they were having sex. It took him 2 weeks to finally admit this to me via email and he said he was doing it for his daughter, and that it was not to spite me or have anything to do with me.

I don't understand how you share your life with someone that you do not love, and probably never will. She knows this. He says that he went into counseling, and that his councilor told him that he needed a life coach that was not prejudice.

I am very hurt. I do not believe that he ever seen a councilor. My own councilor says that he is settling to make himself feel better and that he doesn't think he has a problem. He completely avoids me, almost ashamed.

I guess I am just looking for a second opinion.

[talaniman]

I think you dodged a bullet, and can free yourself of the lies and porn and get a happier life for yourself, with a real man.

Sorry for your loss. (?) Naw, that's a lie, I am glad you are finally free to find your own happiness.

[amicon]

'We agreed to live separately to work on our problems'.
That's a big red flag,as people who love each other stay together to work out their problems.
He avoids you,now avoid him-for the rest of your life.
He's a jerk.

[Cat1864]

My opinion is that he is lying to everyone including his child and most of all himself. I highly doubt it is really doing his child any good for him to be having sex with his ex, but it does make a good rationalization if he is looking for one.

I, too, think you dodged a bullet.

Take care of yourself and move on from this person. I am sure your counselor is recommending you let go and work on your part of the issues which helped cause the break up. Making yourself stronger and more confident is the best thing you can do besides breaking all communications with him.

I think you will be much happier once you make the decision to leave him in the dust.

[vanheart]

As much as this hurts, thank your lucky stars to be away & rid of this guy.

Doesn't sound like he is good for you or anyone else.

He should be ashamed.

I wouldn't speak to him ever again.