[sweety90]

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. I recently got proof that he had been messaging other women asking them out on dates etc. I confronted him about it, and he denied it even with a printed copy of the conversations between him, and other women.

He said he doesn't want to talk about it, and to just drop it. I told him that I would drop it if he was totally honest with me, and that if he admitted it, I was willing to put it aside and move forward. All I wanted was a sincere apology, but he still hasn't said anything.

I told him that we should remain friends, if he won't admit to anything, because I feel like if we stay together, I'll always be wondering if he's doing the same thing. He doesn't want to break up with me, but he doesn't want to tell the truth.

This is bothering me, because he says he didn't do anything wrong, but I am the one who is affected by it. Honestly I can't look at him the same way again, and trusting him now is a big issue.

Please tell me what it is I need to do.

[xania]

Avoid contacting him for a while. I'd say at least a week and a half, so shoot for two. If by then, he still hasn't missed you enough to respect you and admit that he screwed up, why stay with him?

[annabear]

1. You shouldn't stay with a guy if he cheated on you. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have cheated
2. Don't stay with a guy that isn't honest! If he isn't honest now, he probably won't be in the future.
If trusting him is an issue and you can't look at him the same way, then your pretty much scarred by what he did. And he isn't apologizing. So I really really suggest you move on. I think he isn't apologizing because he thinks it isn't a big deal and he can get away with it. So, he could do it again with future girls! I've had somebody cheat on me. They thought it was no big deal and so I got em' back by telling every person he went out with that he's a cheater. And now he knows it's a big deal. So nobody really wants to date him now. Anyway, I hope this helped! Good luck

[talaniman]

Dump the lying cheater. Who needs that?

[loveyourlife]

Hey I went through almost same thing 6 months, and I read mssgs of him to another girl saying a lot of things I couldn't believe... so I confronted him too... and then he denied it *this happened 3 days ago*, today I told him we 're over... it was soooo hard but thanks to my friends I did it... I knew the truth I just wanted to hear it from him... for some odd reason. He told me he loved me and wants to marry me and wants to live with me etc etc... I believed it all... you need to break it off with him... I know it hurts but it will never be the same... and you can't trust him. You deserve to be with someone who treats you as first priority not almost first priority. You need to let him go... and if he really loves you and cares he'll talk to you and tell you about it... otherwise you're just living in a lie, a relationship with no trust and real love. I know you just want to hear the truth and its hard but you have to break it off its not healthy for you to stay in this. I have cried every day and night because of this but I kept eating and tried sleeping, and try to hang out with my friends and am giving myself one week to accept this and not waste my life crying about him and everything that happened that I didn't deserve... that no one deserves. You got this