[Casper_]

My family does not agree me and my boy friend. We meet almost everyday on weekdays about 1 and half hour or 2 hours upmost.but I'm always rushing to go home as I'm worry my mum will scold me.another reason is I feel like trying to stay late after working hours.on weekends I really prefer staying home and I like to out with my boy friend about 3 or 4 hours.he want me to spend like whole days on weekend =.= now he is complaining and said he feel I'm not serious.m I?how often should I meet him to make him happy?

[talaniman]

That depends on how old you are.

[Wondergirl]

Your aim in life and as a girlfriend is NOT to "make him happy." That's his job for himself.

As long as you live at home, you obey your parents' wishes.

[Fr_Chuck]

First you have to obey your parents, if you are a teen ( or god forbide a pre teen doing this) esp.
If you are a adult living at home, what culture do you live under, do parents arrange marriages ? Does status in life make a difference

[Casper_]

Yes you are right I am from Asia and culture is different.but I'm old enough to make decision myself.but I suppose to date with someone my family agree with me.I know it will sound funny for you guy.I am always getting pressure between my boy fri and my family.of because my mum can't lock me up in the room but it is tiring to argue with her for one outing with him.

[Wondergirl]

How old are you?

[Casper_]

I'm old ready, not a teen age.22 this year.it is time to make decision myself,right?I don't need to obey oldies decision,right?just say yes ;;)

[Wondergirl]

I m old ready, not a teen age.22 this year.it is time to make decision myself,right?I don't need to obey oldies decision,right?just say yes

As long as you live under your parents' roof and they are supporting you, you must obey their rules or work out a compromise with them. Yes, you must "obey oldies."

You must live with your parents until you get married? What about college or work (a job)?

[talaniman]

Cultural differences aside, you need to be respectful, and as long as you are supported by your parents, mindful of their rules in THEIR house.

If you think you can do as you please, then get your own house. That being said, don't expect your parents to go along and be pleased with what you do, but going to the library, and being with friends should not be an argument, nor stop you from finding out why they don't want you dating this fellow on the weekends. My gosh, they are your parents! Why can you not discuss this in calm respectful way?

And if your boyfriend cannot accept that he isn't liked enough to be accepted by your parents, don't let him pressure you. He should understand your cultural limits, RIGHT?

Have they met him even?? Only a fool bites the hand that feeds them, or listens to the voice that DOESN'T. So don't let rebellious feelings get in the way of common sense, or Good Orderly Direction.

Yes, you do have a choice, to be respectful, or NOT, but bad choices will bite you in the butt, so choose carefully what, and how you do things. Your boyfriend wants more time together, so do you, but since your time is limited, make the most of it, would be my advice.

[Casper_]

Think I'm being so childish.I m a good girl(just sometimes gone bad :P) I know my parents love me a lot and I won't let them down.I m planning to make my boyfriend and my parents meet in next two weeks time.I have job but not owing house but my boyfriend can buy one.I dun want to have a wedding that no one is blessed but you know sometime I get too much pressure(or maybe I give pressure to myself) and think like, OK I will do as I deem fit.btw he is 4 yrs older than me and he want to get marriage soon.if the meeting with my parent go well then it's good,we proceed to get marriage I dun believe in marriage though.otherwise..