What should I get from this

spartacus189 · Jun 20, 2011, 04:33 AM

Yes

spartacus189 · Jul 5, 2011, 07:16 AM

This thread has been merged with his other ones, for the full background

My Ex has been calling me the past few nights, a few times in a row. I haven't answered only because I have the phone on silent so as not to wake a family member I'm taking care of. She only calls at night, why?

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 5, 2011, 07:42 AM

Well if you don't answer you'll never no
Do you have children together?
She might not want to disturb you working or take your attention away from who your looking after.
How long was you together and how long have you been separated if you don't mind me asking

spartacus189 · Jul 5, 2011, 07:44 AM

We have know children, we were together almost 3 years, when I text and ask her what's up she says it's no big deal... but 3 nights in a row? Leaving no message calling a few times a night? We broke up in May

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 5, 2011, 07:47 AM

Was you living together?

spartacus189 · Jul 5, 2011, 07:49 AM

No

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 5, 2011, 08:01 AM

She could just miss you and want to talk

southamerica · Jul 5, 2011, 08:13 AM

She obviously wants to talk.

If you are ready for that relationship to be over, then you need to ignore her calls and not return them. No Contact means No Contact.

amicon · Jul 5, 2011, 10:38 AM

How long have you been broken up and why did you break up?

I agree with Southamerica-ignore her calls-and don't call her back.

talaniman · Jul 5, 2011, 11:07 AM

You are in the friend zone, so she can talk to you without being your girl friend. Something to do until she finds other interests, and keeps you confused and wondering if you still have a chance to get her back.

This also keeps you from forgetting her, and getting over her, so you don't chase someone else, because you will be waiting for her to take you back. Its all about her getting the attention she needs while she heals herself, and attracts the attention of someone else. Then she will no longer have time to keep you docile, in the friend zone.

Keep ignoring her, and being unavailable to be her emotional tampon, as by now you are seeing the confusion she causes your thoughts just by calling, and getting no answer.

Just think how nutty you would be if you actually talked to her when she calls. She wants you to be busy wondering what's on her mind, and she is also wondering if you have moved on. Its an ego boost for her that you have not, and that's what she really wants to know.

spartacus189 · Aug 7, 2011, 08:31 AM

Threads merged.

My X of over 2 years broke up with me over 2 months ago. She recently called me and told me she hasn't had an orgasm since we were together and that no other man has compared to me in bed. I'm not rich and live 4 hours away from her, could she be lying? And if so why?

Homegirl 50 · Aug 7, 2011, 09:41 AM

She could be messing with you or maybe she wants a booty call. I'd tell her to get lost.

amicon · Aug 7, 2011, 10:13 AM

Why even worry about what she means?

And why take her calls?

She's your ex-leave her in the past.

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