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hongla · Aug 7, 2011, 03:49 AM

I love one girl so much. I sent more "love you" in her mobile, but she doesn't reply to my message. But 3,4 months after she told me "the love is I dont know but you are my best friend, and friendship. I like you ". After that I also sent more "I love you" she doesn't reply. But I love her so much, so what do I do?

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NeedKarma · Aug 7, 2011, 04:16 AM

Leave her alone. Be her friend. She pretty much told you the answer. If you keep texting her that you love her she will shut you out of her life for being creepy.

joypulv · Aug 7, 2011, 04:18 AM

Think of someone you know and like, but couldn't possibly BE IN LOVE WITH. That is how this girl feels about you. You can keep trying of course, once in a million years someone changes their mind.

Sending her I love you's by mobile is just silly, repetive, lazy, boring, and annoying. If you love someone you move heaven and earth for them in song under their window, art sent to their door, writing letters, hand picked wild flowers, dances as they walk down the street.

tickle · Aug 7, 2011, 08:12 AM

Stop sending her 'I love you' notes or whatever, from you say, she just wants to be a friend.

Tick

odinn7 · Aug 7, 2011, 08:15 AM

Tickle is right. Back off because she's obviously not interested. You're probably starting to annoy her at this point. Unfortunately, you can't make someone love you and then harassing them with "i love you" when they're clearly not interested will only push them further away.

hongla · Aug 7, 2011, 08:20 AM

Sorry, how can I stop sending her, becos I love only her and I need her so much.

odinn7 · Aug 7, 2011, 08:22 AM

We can't help you with that. You just have to find it in yourself to stop doing it somehow. You keep doing it, she's going to stop talking to you because you will make her feel uneasy. You've sent it, she knows it, she said she wants to just be friends. Accept that and move on. Eventually you will find someone else.

Wondergirl · Aug 7, 2011, 09:09 AM

Here is what I want you to do. I want you to write all this down as a letter. Tell how you feel about her. Talk about when you first met her and think about sights and smells and tastes and touch and hearing of anything at the times when you have been with her.

Then -- and this is very important -- put the letter away in a safe place. DO NOT MAIL IT OR GIVE IT TO HER! Writing this will help you get your strong emotions expressed without upsetting her.

Cat1864 · Aug 7, 2011, 09:19 AM

The advice given is not going to change no matter how many other places you ask the same question.

She has tried to be nice about letting you down and it seems to have been a mistake. It seems to have given you hope she might feel the same as you think you feel. However, she does not share your feelings.

Do not spend time trying to convince her of your love, she knows. She has told you how she feels. Do not even think about making her feel bad for not returning your feelings. Your feelings are your own responsibility as hers are her own.

You cannot make her feel the same for you as you do for her. What you can do is be more involved in your life than you are hers. Going out with other friends, getting involved in hobbies, meeting new people, etc. can give you outlets for putting your feelings for her into better perspective. If you aren't focusing on her, you may find your feelings aren't as strong as you think they are.

Accept her friendship and ask for nothing more or leave her totally alone and learn to let go.

Homegirl 50 · Aug 7, 2011, 09:31 AM

You get a life apart from her, that is what you do. You accept the fact that she does not love you. You cannot make her love you but you can get on her nerves and make yourself miserable.

You need to CHOOSE to leave her alone and stop pestering her because that is what you are doing, and you need to CHOOSE to move forward with your life.

hongla · Aug 7, 2011, 12:19 PM

Also when I love so much that's girl, she sent me! Sms morning time and night always she talking with me long time. And she said don't tell more other people to your my frien and I am your friend. Also she doing me! Like her boyfriend. But she doesn't reply my "i love you" massage. That's way I don't know is she love me or not. I am confiused. Is she love me! Or not??

NeedKarma · Aug 7, 2011, 12:27 PM

She. Does. Not. Love. You.
For love to happen you need two people who feel the same way about each other. What you have is infatuation.

Lyra123 · Aug 7, 2011, 12:27 PM

She is "doing" you? Explain what that means.

She is not going to respond to the message because she gave you an answer to that. She DOES NOT love you. Be her friend!

Fr_Chuck · Aug 7, 2011, 12:34 PM

And stop spamming this site. Answer your own question to add more info, stop putting the same posts in several other areas.

hongla · Aug 7, 2011, 12:41 PM

Lyra123 sorry, my english is so poor

Lyra123 · Aug 7, 2011, 01:24 PM

I just want to know what you mean by she is "doing" you. It has a few meanings in English.

Wondergirl · Aug 7, 2011, 01:39 PM

Originally Posted by Lyra123

I just want to know what you mean by she is "doing" you. It has a few meanings in English.

"also she doing me! like her boyfriend"

I think he means "she is treating me as her boyfriend."

Actually, if she is, but won't respond to his love messages, that's pretty mean and another reason to move on.

Lyra123 · Aug 7, 2011, 01:42 PM

O all right, well that clears up that area Wondergirl.

Then I continue with my previous statement. She has made it clear you are friends, back off her.

And listen to Wondergirl. She is wonderful

talaniman · Aug 7, 2011, 03:24 PM

Attention to a friend is not like a boyfriend, and that's why she doesn't reply to I love you. Back off and be a friend and act NORMAL, not like a lovesick, immature kid.

Cat1864 · Aug 7, 2011, 07:23 PM

hongla, may I ask what your cultural background is? What country do you live in?

Is she allowed to have a 'boyfriend'? Is she allowed to have a friend who is male?

It seems to me that she is treating you like a female friend. Someone she cares about as a friend.

I don't think she means to confuse you. I think you are doing that to yourself.

There is one main way to end the confusion you feel and that is to walk away.