[foryewalways]

I am very depressed, I met this guy 1 year he is kind of reserved person never spoke to any girl in fact fells very nervous in front of girls
He saw my pic on some website and started talking to me as a friend and me too was responding and started talking to him at tha t time I was in relationship I treated him just as a friend during that time I had break up with my boyfriend that time we became nice friends then after 2 to 3 months he proposed me in some and I was doing time pass and I said yes.he was damn serious that I knew since... I also continued as I was alone and depressed after my break up .

He started loving me more but I wasn serious abut him.. now slowly slowly he became so possesive that he started checking my mobile ,almost deleted the numbers of all boys... deleted my friends from emails and all .

He started fighting on every call I reciev .even if I talk with my family people he doubts a lot and I can't pick up the calls from my relatives at all.

I can't go out with my family also my family doesn't know about him .n I can't let them know as he is from different cast .I know I can't marry him and I don't want to because I know my life will be hell

He fights and asks me to come and give my cell phone to him to check it

I can't even talk to my friends which are girls .
He made me alone all my friends left me but I didn't say him a word .

Now when I'm doing job he almost asks me who all are there in office.. keeps on calling me continuously .and if I don't pick up he comes near office .
I am now scared of him I can't wear anything I like I can't do what I like... feeling like I am in cage plzz help me I a crying for help
I got no solution rather dying
But I have family who needs me a lot can't leave them alone
What to do with this guy *** tell me


I can't go to police or I can't tell any one in my family my family do trust me a lot my parents never thought of this even .it will ruin my name my prestige in my family and society.my family never expected this and now I am almost done with my life can't tell them.he will come to my home and mess everything its better to die then that

Yes I leave with my family .

I tried everything went to his family and did all possible things but nothing worked out .

WHOM TO TELL THIS GUY HAS MADE ME ALONE IN MY LIFE THAT I HAVE NO FRIENDS .

[Cat1864]

I have moved your post to its own thread so we can give you advice for your issues.

A tip about posting on Ask Me Help Desk, please use full words, it makes posts easier to to read and chat/text speak is against site rules. Thank you.

foryewalways, why can't you go to the police? Why do you think you will lose your standing in your community and family if you admit you made a mistake and ask for help?

It sounds like you are going to have to stand up for yourself and tell someone.

You need the support of family and friends and if he is as possessive as you make him sound they are going to find out about him eventually. It is better they learn about him from you than having him show up on the doorstep. You can't keep hiding him. Since you live with your family, what do they think you are doing when you are with him?

Stop living in fear. He can't use your family as blackmail to keep you in the relationship if you tell them. Be honest with your family (or at least someone one you trust) and their reaction may not be as bad as you are afraid.

Get in touch with your friends who you have let go. Explain why you have been distant to them. Ask them for help.

Break up with him and do not meet with him again. Take back your life. It may seem bleak now, but that is because you are afraid. Deal with that fear. Get back what he has caused you to lose, mainly your own self-esteem.

[foryewalways]

I have no friends no one in my life whom to share who to ask for help he made alone in my life

Finally I am victim he has a proofs of our relation

[Cat1864]

What are you afraid of happening if people find out?

What is happening because you aren't speaking out?

If you tell your family what has happened and that you need help, it takes away his hold over you.

As for your friends, get in touch with them. You won't be alone if you reach out. They can't know you need them unless you tell them.

He cannot stop you from getting in touch with your friends or your family. He isn't with you all day and night every day and night. You live in your family home so he can't control what you do at home.

Would you consider thinking about counseling to help you see there are more options than the ones you are concentrating on? It might help you to see that you don't have to be a victim. You can be the strong woman who refuses to be treated like a possession. It isn't easy. It will take time and it will cause upsets. You are in the center of a mess and you are going to have to clean it up before gets worse. I think you have the strength to get out of this because it took strength to come here looking for help.

Write out your fears/concerns and lets see if we can find solutions for them.

Do your parents even know that you are seeing someone? Have they started talking about you getting married? Are they looking for prospects or are they trusting you to find a husband?