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    angelorion Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 16, 2011, 04:14 PM
    Should I stay in this group?
    So there is five people that I hang out with all together. It's my boyfriends friends
    My boyfriend Kyle
    His best friend Evan
    Long time friend Ryan who is autistic and not on meds anymore
    Ryan's girlfriend Sam

    It's the usual got your good days and got your bad days. Lately it's been bad days. I try my best to become friends with them. So we can all have fun. I mostly hang out with Sam since we are the only girls. I see Ryan as an older brother, I also see Evan as one too. Kyle got jealous cause Evan is a real flirt-er but we shortly fix that problem. So their no problems with Evan.. But Sam has been kind of crazy lately..

    I want to be her friend in all. But she always chooses being a girlfriend over a friend.. Which is understandable at some points but not all the time.. But some times Ryan is plain wrong.. And she jump to his side.. Which upsets me, for me I would tell my boyfriend your wrong automatically. But Sam hasn't been that way. Me and Ryan would text each sometimes I love you like a brother or sister. But Sam didn't like so I stopped saying it first.

    But Ryan said it first.. So what am I supposed to say? Ryan gets mad super easy. Am I supposed to say nothing make him mad? With him, he always has to be the center of attention. If you talk to him about a problem he automatically refer to himself. He hates being wrong.. And to top in all off he very very aggressive.. He speeds on the roads.. Which make in dangerous for everyone..

    But turns out me responding was the wrong thing to do.. Cause Sam went psycho and read Ryan texts and called me up to yelling at me.. She has major trust issues.. With her she never opens up no matter how hard everyone tries. I question if she even wants to be in the group.. We waited for a long time for her to open up, we invite her to everything. All she can do back is complain that she not getting time with Ryan. We give them space but kind of hard if Ryan always wants to hang out as a group.

    It's really difficult to hang out with these people when they always cause unnecessary drama. Everyday Ryan gets mad at something. Than starts speeding around like a manic.

    Even worst Ryan always shows up at Kyle's house all mad speeds up his street and waits outside the door for someone to come out. It's super upsetting when all you want to do is spend alone time with your other half.. Than an angry friend comes driving your way.. My boyfriend says "if you go, I'll go with you" and Evan said he would go if my boyfriend goes. Another thing is Ryan's mom is getting Kyle a good job at the bank and dropping Ryan means no good paying job..

    I'm starting to stress more cause we are basically Ryan's only friends.. I'm not sure if I want stay to help and ruin my summer or leave all the drama..
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    #2

    Jul 16, 2011, 04:52 PM

    If you left, where would you go?

    You might be the rock and the anchor for this group of friends. Why not help them get past the drama and start enjoy being with each other? If you want ideas on how to do that, ask us.
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    angelorion Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 16, 2011, 07:07 PM
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    I would just stay with Evan and my boyfriend.

    It's hard.. We tried doing that.. The whole fresh start thing going pass the drama but it seems they always want to stir up new drama..
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    Jul 17, 2011, 08:33 AM

    How old is everyone in this group?
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    angelorion Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 4, 2011, 04:08 PM
    Kyle is 20
    Sam is 21
    Evan is 22
    Ryan is 23

    I'm the youngest

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