[xxikayixx]

I have known my BF for 13 years and about 2 years ago started dating. Before we hooked up he had a few night stands with this one girl. He made it a point to ask her before they did anything if she wanted children and if she got pregnant what she would do. She said she wasn't ready for a child and she was on the pill and nothing would happen. He told her he can not have any children because he has such a hectic life he can barely have time to have a G/F. I knew of his situation of having his plate overfilled with stuff to do but I love him and I am willing to deal with his lifestyle. Well we hooked up and are as happy as ever and all of a sudden she comes to him and says she is pregnant and keeping the baby. That she wants my boyfriend in her life, and he has to be there for her. Basically she had the baby to try to keep my boyfriend trapped. Anyway.. We have gone to court and had everything set up regarding communication, co parenting and scheduling. The problem is she can't remember what she says 5 min before she says something else. We also document every conversation, every time she calls or texts, every harassing word or vulgar word, she does talk bad about my boyfriend in front of the child. We have taken every precaution that we can to make this issue not happen but it does anyway. We do not want to take the child away from the mother because we believe every child deserves both parents. She is a selfish, self centered, conniving woman who needs a reality check.

The BM drama has increased severely. The child is now 2 and whenever she asks any question, regardless of the answer it isn't what she wants to hear. She always calls names and says we are not treating her with respect when we do nothing but go out of our way to try to help her when she needs it. When she doesn't get the answer she wants she calls my bf's mother and harasses her till she gets what she wants. We have an agreement from court that she is to let us know immediately when something happens to the child which in one month, he has chomped down on a chlorine tablet, swallowed her fathers medication and the other day sliced his hand open on a " plastic bottle". When we ask what happens she makes us beg to get the information out of her, and then she calls us highly vulgar names for NO reason.. then texts for hours about how she's the mother of his child and she deserves the highest respect and all of his time. She has severe mental issues and has no control over her feelings. She also complains everyday how I am a stranger and she wants to have a meeting with me. I told her that if she can treat the father of the child with respect for one month I would agree to sit down with her, but she can't refrain from talking shi*t for ONE HOUR... HOW do I go about dealing with this?

[ScottGem]

You posted this in the Family Law section so I assume you want legal advice. Since you have no legal standing in this situation, there is almost nothing you can do.

But one thing you need to do is to stop talking about her like you did here. You claim she has "severe mental issues". Are you a mental health professional? Have you seen a diagnosis that states that? Branding someone like that is very wrong.

I will assume your boyfriend had a paternity test done to confirm he is the father. Since you have a parenting plan in place, then he need to stick to it or go to court to modify it. If she is violating the agreement, then he has to bring this up to the court. Again you have no legal standing.

[graciousbrat]

Have your boyfriend take her back to court, and he may not like doing it, but you guys need to take her to court and have them check her mental stability. If she is not mentally stable then the courts will take over and find out who is best fit for the child. You may not like doing this, because you want the child to have both parents, but he doesn't need to be in a situation with a parent that allows harm to come to him. It really may not be something you want to do, but think about what has happened to the child, and what could happen the next time she takes her eyes off him.

[ScottGem]

Kayi, I merged the two threads because all you did was just post the same thing in another forum. If you want to post in another forum to get more relationship type advice, please reword your question and specify the type of advice you are looking for. Also refer4ence this thread for those who want to give legal advice.