[kekra]

I was a easy going carefree guy once upon a time. Then I fall in love and everything just changed. It was love at first sight. I still remember the day she turned and smiled at me. It was a magical moment. Time seemed to froze at that moment and it was like I clicked a photograph of that instant in my soul. We were in the same college same class same section. I never really took notice of her until that particular moment.
Well here I was in love with this gal but I never approached her I college. I was not really the kind of guy girls wanted to hangout with. Time passed and I kept my feelings to myself. I used to help out whenever I could though as a colleague.
Later we got selected in the same company. There our love story started. I used to help her out during the training period and we spent a lot of time together. Slowly she also fall in love with me and we started dating.

Just like in any relationship we also started having issues. Life was no longer a like the dream it used to be. I have a bad temper and have the habit of texting thing like " dnt talk to me ever..love an all are not relevant in todays world....". She always used to get hurt by these and use to try to appease me. But I never texted back or answered her calls. She used to keep trying to contact for days together. But I never replied. After a few days I will start feeling very bad and try to patch up things again. Say sorry a thousand time... but this went on as a cycle... I was never able to stop myself from texting. I never shouted yelled or hit her.. I just go away... run from her when I got hurt by her actions. I didn't know what to do. How to react. My only defense was text and go into isolation. I love her so much that when she does something that hurt me 1% it come to me like a hurt dam of hurt brusting. I couldn't bear the hurt. I felt so terrible I just had to run. I really love her and I always believed that true love is sacrifice and I always sacrificed a lot for her happiness. I used do everything I could just to mk her smile. Every moment I spent with her I felt like doing something for her and I did. But my hurting problem finaaly became too much for her. She was getting no peace and had to suffer a lot because of that. I still dun know why I always end up texting stuffs and running a way. I always realize late. Finally she decided to move on after I didn't talk to her for 2 months (that was the longest time I stayed away from her). She told me just couldn't bear it anymore. I knew I was wrong and I accpeted my fault and told her its okay. She can move on but I want to be given a chance so that I can change and don't repaeat it. But she was not sure and we decided on being just frens.
However my problem was still there I still used to not talk to her for days at time. I don't know how I do it. I really love her more than anything more than myself but somehow I always end up hurting her and myself.

Its been almost a year since we broke off and recent she met a guy and she is starting to go around with him. I have told myself many time to be strong and her do what she wants and be happy for her. Though I really want her to be happy I myself feel like I am dying slowly from the inside. I know I have wronged her but I am sure I have the strength to move on or bear the pain. I really don't know how you can just move on from a person you love so much. My brain says you can try and win her back.. u can change and work out things... she can be happy with you also. But my heart say you have hurt her enuf... be strong and let her live her life free of all the hurt I gave her. Even now all I feel for her is just pure love. I don't know what to do... wht should I do??

[talaniman]

If your pure love didn't bring about the changes and adjustments to help support and continue that love, then its not so pure, or really love. If you have not worked on yourself to make changes that make you a better partner, I highly suggest you get busy or this will surely happen again.

While its normal to be hurt, and dissaponted, when a relationship fails, if you have not worked on yourself, then you can never move on, and will remain stuck on the past.

[kekra]

I have made a lot of cahnges but I have not yet been a ble to control my texting habit... I really want to get rid of it.. it hurt people I love th most.. wht do mean by "if you have not worked on yourself, then you can never move on" ?

[hauntinghelper]

You sound young since you mention texting so much. Here's what is going to happen... over time, you'll get over it. If she is with someone else now, let it go... don't be the bad guy that moves in on someone else's relationship because of the past. When you meet the next person, this last one will slowly fade. If I can offer one more piece of advice... try a little less texting in a relationship and a little more real life.

[talaniman]

"if you have not worked on yourself, then you can never move on" ?

It means you must build yourself a life that makes you happy without her in it. With friends, family and activities that you enjoy, so you won't have time to look back on what was, nor will you want to.