[wendgo]

Hi
I have been dating this guy for 6 weeks who I was attracted to instantly.
Since we met he has phoned every day and we have spent every weekend together.
We have become very close very quickly,and feel I am falling for him.
And I absolutely knew he was felling for me.

However I knew he had a few problems with work etc... but was shocked to get a text out of the blue,saying maybe best if I didn't see you as I have a lot to sort out.

I was so shocked,arranged to meet the next day,and as soon as we met,I knew he did feel the same,by the look he gave me and body language.
I said did I imagine that you felt a lot for me? He said no,but this has frightened him a bit,and brought up memories of his last break up,and affected work etc.

He did say he was going to suggest that we slow it down,as he did want to still see me every so often,but thought that wasn't fair to me.

I gave hime every chance to walk away(This was all done calmly by the way).
But agreed for now to see hime every so often and give him space to sort stuff out,only because I could see he really cared.

It has been 4 days and not heard anything yet.
Should I wait for him to call,or send a nice message with no pressure??

Its my birthday in a couple of weeks and he was supposed to be coming with me,should I expect him still to come??

Thanks for any help,I have not been in this situation before.

[TheCompromiser]

I would give him his space. Contacting him at all at this point would be pressure. If he comes back, great, but don't expect anything.

[lily1470]

I think you should just leave him alone for awhile. Don't worries about him too much go to the movie with your friends or family member if you want him to get back with you you should let me come to you let him see that you don't need him he needs you

[lily1470]

And don't think about too much on you birthday like you should not care if he comes or not because if you get your hopes up to high you might be sad when he don't show up just hang out with you friend or something

[amicon]

Waiting for someone to call is not a good place to be.

No contact-go live your own life and leave him to his space.

The realistic take on this is that his feelings changed and he's too much of a coward to tell you.