[wells21]

Me and my girl friend have been together about two months now. We were all over each other at the beginning. Now she said she's not happy anymore. She says I act to imature, and I get on her nerves too much. She also says were together all the time. Now she is debating on being with me unless I change. What can I do. What all should I do to change. I want to know how to fix this.

[Wondergirl]

How old are the two of you? 12? 26? 57?

Do you work, go to school, do nothing?

[joypulv]

How old are you both?
She's not too mature either, if she thinks she can just tell someone to change. People don't change on demand, especially when they don't even know what is wrong. You get on her nerves? You act immature? Those mean nothing. Tell her to sit down with you, with no TV, no music, and no video games, and tell you what she means.
Everyone is 'all over each other' at first. Then relationships go through stages as you settle into the process of sharing a place, food, sleep, how money is spent, did I say MONEY, and plans for the future like careers, marriage, babies, a house. Sometimes women are more eager than men to plot out the future. They do have that biological clock you know. If 'Baby, you look so hot in that tank top' doesn't evolve into 'Darling, let's start saving for a little starter house or would you rather have a diamond ring,' then most men are doomed.

[talaniman]

Lust fades, love grows. The difference is huge, and most don't know the difference. Lust is what attracts us, and when it fades and there is nothing else to keep it going then the relationship fades away too. Until the next one.

What makes it worse is that during the beginning the lust makes you forget all else, except the hunger for each other, and all is good with those very intense feelings. When the hot passions cool off, heck, you don't know what to do with the other person.

For her, the lust has definitely faded, and she no longer wants it the way it was. She wants more, in other areas of the relationship, like talking and having fun, and actually missing each other because you have separate friends and activities that you enjoy, and you just don't spend time cuddling, and kissing, and holding hands.

What do you do when the lust fades to nothing? You talk and get to know each other on a deeper level to see if there is indeed something else there, on BOTH your parts.

If NOT! Then you break up and go your separate ways, until lust attracts you yet again. Experienced people know this. And deal with the lust, but not get carried away with it, or mistake it for love. Now that you have used up all your lust, you better find another way to stay connected, if you can, because you both sound to young to know about yourselves, let alone each other.

How do I know that? Because if you would have know what to do, you would be doing it. Start talking and doing and if its no fun, it won't last long at all. NO, don't even think you are in love after two months of lust. You are just strangers whose bodies know each other, but not your minds. That's what talking, and listening is about.