[BROKENHEART2011]

Hi everyone;

Well hope someone can help me truly. I was in a relationship with my ex for 5 years and 2,5 years of it we were living together. I met her when she was 17 and I was 21 now she is 22 and I'm 26.

In the 5 years she has dumped me 7-8 times out of blue. We never had fights etc... None of us have any alcohol problems and we do not use no drugs etc...

Every time she dumped me the reasons were;

I don't love you anymore

I want to be single

I don't see future together

You deserve better etc...

Then every time she come back she says;

I can't see my life without you

I made big mistakes

I really regret what I did etc...

At first when she dumped me she was back within a week but past 2 times been different;

Once it took 1,5 half months for her to contact me after seeing me out and about. Then she stayed 2 months with me then went off again and this time it took 4 months for us to get back together and that was the only time I initiated the contact with her all other times she was the one did the first move every time.

But when she was apart from me 4 months I have tried to talk to her 2 months before and she didn't reply to my text message at all then I tried again that time she replied and after talks we got back together.

I don't know what's her problem with being with me. This time we just got back from holiday abroad and 2nd day she left me out of blue again and she says we are not right for each other, she don't love me, she might be interested in someone else, she only comes back because she was bored not for the right reasons etc...

Fair enough but I doubt someone would waste their time with same person so long just cause they are bored! She is not ugly girl either so she can get other guys without any problem but why is she kept coming back to me?

We still texting each other now and then as we are separated and she is even considering being friends with benefits (friendship and sex) with me but I don't get none of it cause if there's anyone else, she wouldn't come back to me so many times or even talk to me at all but this girl is very confusing me. She is telling me she is not in love with me but she cares for me etc... Gets jelous when I say I hang out with other chicks, keeps asking questions about them. So please someone lighten me up with experience :(

Please help me as I had so many girls came in and out of my life but never seen anything like this and this experience made me very miserable person and now lost all my confidence in me and don't enjoy nothing at all in the life :((

She also came from wealthy family but she wasn't working person so I was financially helping her as well and when we lived together I was the one paying the bills also but again she didn't have to be with me as her parents support her all the way financially too when she is not with me. So I don't know :((

Thanks for taking time reading it!

PS: She has no friends only 1 friend and she only hangs out with her time to time other then that she is mostly at home. She is not very outgoing person or party lover either but like said even if there was someone else why would she keep coming back to me or talking to me still?

She is not come from poor family, her parents always support her and get her whatever she wants no matter what it is. So I can't see anyway that she is using me at all :(

She is not diagnosed by qualified doctor or on any sort of medication. I just don't know what is her problem and trying to find advise :(

[amicon]

Why waste any more time trying to figure out what goes on in her head?

Avoid future drama by having nothing more to do with her.

Move on with your life and find someone who isn't a spoiled,immature brat.

[talaniman]

Its you who must finally decide to have nothing else to do with her, and disappear from her life, and be unavailable for her drama, or benefits.

If you cannot, nothing will change, and you get more of the same. Tell her to leave you alone forever.

[vanheart]

You can beat your head against the wall, all you want.

Hurts, huh?

The only problem is that you are hooked on her. Even though its over & never worked. Or will ever. Or should ever.

Sometimes we all make mistakes. Wrong girl. Big whoop. There's others.

The sooner you remove her from everything, especially your thoughts. The sooner you will begin to live again.

But don't forget what you've learned. Will come in handy later.

Be smart.