[S.Nunn95]

I'm Sam, I'm 16 years old and I really need help. I like a girl who has a boyfriend and I really want to be with her. She is the most amazing girl I have ever known, she's pretty, clever, funny, the lot. She is the one person I think about all the time and it really hurts knowing that she is with another boy. I've never felt like this before and I know she is the one for me but I cannot be with her. I want to tell her how I feel but I can't, as I think this will conjure up more problems and anyway, the boy she is with is a good friend of mine and I can't do that to him. I know they say if you love her let her go but I really don't want to as she is the most amazing thing that could ever happen to me. I just need some replies on anything that I should do. There is not a day that passes where I don't wish for me and her to be together. Thank you.

[Cat1864]

From reading what you have written, it seems you already have a good understanding of what you shouldn't do.

I think you also know she isn't yours to keep or lose.

I know right now it seems like this feeling is extremely strong and will last a lifetime. From experience I know it will fade and the emotions will become fond memories if you let them. Other young women who are available will come into your life and the feelings will be just as strong if not stronger.

I'll let you in on a very poorly kept secret. As amazing as she seems, there are other young women just as amazing. Males just tend to overlook them because they are focusing on the one who isn't available.

For right now, limit the time you spend with your friend and his girlfriend. Try to spend time with him instead of them.

Get involved in activities where you can meet new people. New experiences can help you let the feelings for this person go.

Keep your mind open when you meet new females and don't judge them by how well they measure up to this person. Get to know them as individuals like you would hope they are getting to know you.

Give yourself ways to let thoughts of her go and you will be okay. Good luck.

[talaniman]

I highly advise that you leave them both alone, and say or do nothing to interfere is what they have going. Yeah its going to be rough, but give the same respect to your friends, that you would want them to give you. That would be the right thing to do, and you never know, if you really look around, you may find an even better girl than her. One that likes you and wants to have fun with you so bottom line is get your own girl and leave your friends girl alone.

That applies to any girl with a boyfriend. I feel you though, fallen for a few that were taken in my time, and all you can do is say damn, and move on to your own.

Takes a bit of doing to get your head straight, so good luck. You will need it. But you will be glad you did in the long run.

[S.Nunn95]

I'm doubting your last sentence, but thanks for the advice. I know that I shouldn't interfere, and I won't, it's just extremely hard

[S.Nunn95]

Thank you for taking time out to reply, it's helped a little.