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marcjohnson · Jul 16, 2011, 06:09 PM

So I'm 17 years old and I'm a virgin... I have a best friend called Monique. She and I had been friends for so long... She had a boyfriend and she had sex with him almost every day. They broke up several months ago. She always brags about how she is horny and stuff... So me! (the genius) told her to try it with me, I told her that she will be pleasured and that I will lost my virginity, so I should not be scared about my future relationships. First she was like, "no, what if you tell...", "I'm scared" , etc. But today she told me that she want's to have sex with me... and she want's it "rough". So we were sitting on a bench and talking and I told her that I have a boner, she started teasing my penis and of course I liked it, then I started touching her vagina (through clothes) and she was so turned on... She told me "I'm so wet and I'm ready to have sex with you this week!". Oh My God I'm so confused and stressed, I like to have my first sexual experience with a girl I know, and she likes to be pleasured... But... What about the future? Will something change? I know her like forever and I don't want to lose her as a friend... The thing I'm stressed about is what if I fell for her or if she fells for me? Please Help!
PS. Sorry about my bad english...

J_9 · Jul 16, 2011, 06:12 PM

Yes, your whole relationship will change. Having sex isn't like shaking hands, it will change the dynamics of the relationship completely.

Oh, and you risk getting her pregnant, that's the most important part.

Wondergirl · Jul 16, 2011, 06:26 PM

DO NOT have sex with your best friend. Like J_9 said, your relationship will change, most likely in a bad way. You will probably lose her as a friend.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 16, 2011, 07:05 PM

Very few people can keep emotions out of having sex, so when she starts dating someone else if you are not a couple, just friends having sex?

So you are basically saying that your friendship will soon end, when the physcal relationship ends.

Next have you discussed birth control, I assume you will use condoms at least, is she also on birth control pills ?

Enigma1999 · Jul 16, 2011, 07:29 PM

How about having sex with someone when you are READY and in love.

I don't see why you need to rush. You are 17, and you have your whole life ahead of you.

What if you get her pregnant? Are you ready to be a Father? I doubt it.

I believe that you are playing with fire here.

Take your time. Focus on other things at the moment. For example, school, friends, family, extracurricular activities, not sex.

Also, I believe that if you were to have sex with her, that it might make things uncomfortable in the future between you two.

Wouldn't you want to lose your virginity with someone you are in love with?

mj808 · Jul 17, 2011, 11:26 AM

Friends with benefits never works. One of two things happens:

A) Somebody gets emotionally attached and wants more while the other doesn't- thus wrecking the friendship.

B) You get into a relationship and if you break up, the friendship may be ruined.

Seriously, if you want to keep the friendship don't do it. If you don't want to be a dad, don't do it. And really, if you don't have any real feelings for her, don't do it.

princess8844 · Jul 18, 2011, 08:43 PM

Don't DO IT!

Baabyguuurl56 · Jul 20, 2011, 02:23 AM

He probably already did it.. just saying

marcjohnson · Jul 21, 2011, 12:18 PM

Thank you all... for those fulfilling advices and opinitons... you helped me... I'll try not to and I should not rush... thank you again :)

Sweetest91girl · Sep 3, 2013, 11:23 PM

I think you should do it if you both understand it is just friends with benefits.my best friend and I do are friend with benefits *love it* and he dates girls and I date guys we both are fine with it.we understand that if we get into a Relationship with someone that we will just be friends nothing more.our friendship has not changed or maybe it has but for the better. I feel it safer having sex with him then just some random guy.