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Axel3277 · Jul 11, 2011, 10:55 PM

Okay so a week and a half ago my girlfriend went to camp. She wouldn't have a cell phone and would only be able to write letters. Today I found out a few days ago my girlfriend got to spend the day with her best friend at camp (I knew her and him talked a lot and met last summer. Also that he lives in Michigan and they used to like each other. I also knew that they would see each other that one day.). She promised me she was all mine, and that she would never cheat. She said she loved me too much.

Okay so today I got a call from her (she borrowed a phone someone snuck in) saying she's sorry, but he kissed her, and SHE kissed him. And to please not be mad or upset. It was a huge mistake. So now I don't know what to do. I feel crushed. Especially how she was so clear that it wouldn't happen, and that she knew it would destroy me if she did. She comes home in 5 days and I need to know what I'm going to do by then. I love her more than anything, and don't want to give up. But I know that I will have a super hard time trusting her, and feel if I don't do something she won't realize how bad it is. Sorry it's so long, please help

amicon · Jul 12, 2011, 02:21 AM

How old are the two of you and how long have you been dating?

I suggest you talk this over once she gets back and take it from there-meanwhile keep busy and try not to dwell on this.

Tubesox · Jul 12, 2011, 01:49 PM

To be honest. Kissing isn't that bad, I'm sure she just got lost in a moment. These things happen. If you love her a lot then just talk to her, tell her that your going to find it hard to trust her and that shell need to prove herself to you. If she loves you shell be willing to work at. If not then you'll get your answer :)

Axel3277 · Jul 12, 2011, 02:25 PM

Thank you, and She said she really regrets it. It's not really that they kissed, more that she swore it wouldn't happen just a little bit before that. But I know that she's not going to stop talking to the guy even if I ask her too, and I have a really hard time trusting people after they break there word. Thanks for the tips, I'll just wait till I can talk to her again when she gets back and see where it goes. I don't want to lose her but if I don't break up with her how can I show that it was wrong so she doesn't do it again?

talaniman · Jul 12, 2011, 02:44 PM

Its done, she confessed, there is only forgiveness. If you forgive, you let it go and move on. If you can't forgive, you break up.

What you don't do is punish her for doing wrong. If you forgive her, then you tell her honestly that it may take some time on your part to get over it, and then you better think before you act or speak.

You may be too young to understand how bad it is when you act or speak from impulse because you are angry, or confused, and this will be a challenge.

Give her the benefit of a doubt, or leave her alone. She knows she did wrong and doesn't need a punishment from you. Or orders from you as to how she deals with it.

Axel3277 · Jul 16, 2011, 09:34 AM

Hey guys thanks for the help she comes home today and I do forgive her. The situation was a little worse than what I knew before but were going to do our best to work through it. I'm going to handle this on my own from now on, it's just one of those things I got to figure out by myself. You won't need to reply on here anymore because I won't be checking it.thankyou very much for your support

talaniman · Jul 16, 2011, 10:41 AM

Good luck, and hope you can update us with good news.