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    sumanmalik Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 14, 2011, 04:46 AM
    Hi, if m not virgin.so there is any issue about that in between husband. Me and my
    M not virgin. M physically with my boyfrend.n my boyfrend leave me . Now my parents force me for marriage. And I'm very scared about the wedding night and what will happen... *** help me plzzzzzz there is no way I saw... I'm so scared... *** help
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    Jul 14, 2011, 04:48 AM

    M not virgin. M physically with my boyfrend.n my boyfrend leave me . Now my parents force me for marriage. And I'm very scared about the wedding night and what will happen... *** help me plzzzzzz there is no way I saw... I'm so scared... *** help
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    Jul 14, 2011, 04:53 AM

    Hello s:

    Hold you legs tightly together, and moan a little when he penetrates you.. You could bleed a little and he'll think you're a virgin..

    Let's hope.

    excon
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    Jul 14, 2011, 07:02 AM

    You could be honest with your soon-to-be husband before the wedding or you can continue to lie and hope that he never finds out.

    How much importance is he putting on your being a virgin? Is it a requirement that he has for his bride or are you making an assumption? Does he know that you were in a serious relationship before this marriage was arranged? Does he know you are being forced to marry him?
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    Jul 14, 2011, 07:19 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    How much importance is he putting on your being a virgin? Is it a requirement that he has for his bride or are you making an assumption?
    Hello Cat:

    In the ordinary course of events, I don't encourage lying... However, in SOME parts of the world, when the punishment for not being a virgin on your wedding night is STONING, I think a lie can be forgiven.

    Now, I don't know if that's the case here, but I suspect it.

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    Jul 14, 2011, 08:30 AM

    Exy, I understand that aspect. I, too, understand lying in cases like this. However, she is the one who runs the risk of her ex or someone else who knows about her previous relationship (or talking in her sleep) exposing the lie.

    The danger is why I said 'before the wedding' if she decides to tell him. I am also concerned if he is adamant about having a 'virgin' bride that he will insist on having her 'tested'.

    Getting to know him and his expectations better before the wedding may give her clues as to the best way to handle the situation and may relieve some of her fear.

    There really isn't a simple answer. Even refusing to be 'forced' into a marriage not of her choosing isn't much of an option.
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    Jul 14, 2011, 11:48 AM

    I agree with "Cat." Better to tell him and have him walk away than marry him and have the community stone her to death when the truth comes out.
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    Jul 15, 2011, 04:38 AM
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    No he don't know... n I don't want to tell about my past... how can I manage after marriage...
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    Jul 15, 2011, 04:49 AM
    If m not telling anything to my husband then every thing will be f9
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    Jul 15, 2011, 04:52 AM
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    Hi excon..
    When me and my boyfriend make a first physical relation that time m not bleed...
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    Jul 15, 2011, 04:53 AM

    In this modern age, women do a lot of activity like cycling or sports and there is a lot of chance that a girl might no resemble a virgin, even if she is. Most men are aware of this. So, just be normal, he won't find out about your past until someone tells him. But be true to him after marriage no matter what. This should be a one time lesson to be learnt for you.
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    Jul 15, 2011, 04:55 AM
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    If and not telling anything to my husband about my that phy.relationship . Then is everything will f9...
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    Jul 15, 2011, 05:03 AM
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    Yes I will be true in every way and every situation with my husband... thanks...
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    Jul 15, 2011, 05:45 AM

    I'm sorry but when you start your marriage with a lie you will lie to him the entire time you are married. Obviously your virginity (or lack of virginity) is important to him - and you are willing and able to look him in the face and lie about it.

    No, I don't think everything will be fine.

    I never understand why people ask a question, get answers and follow up with "I could never do that."

    Pretend you're a virgin. I'm sure you remember the first time you had sex. Act like you did that night.

    And hope your old boyfriend keeps his mouth shut.
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    Jul 20, 2011, 12:59 PM
    1. Have sex with him, pretend its your first time. Moan a little. Pretend you are in pain.

    2. Not all women bleed when they lose their virginity.

    3. If his mother traditionally wishes to check the sheets for blood OR he would like to check the sheets for blood the next morning - what you can do is next time you have your period - use a tampon; squeeze the juices into a little flask or container. When he falls asleep pour some on the sheets where you had sex. :D

    Easy Done.
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