[muffin55]

I've been hanging out with this awesome guy for over a month now, we have so much fun, we get each other's humor and laugh a lot. I think he's pretty cute although I want to restyle his hair lol (sounds shallow, sorry, it's stupid but sometimes it looks good and sometimes it looks weird). The thing is I keep going back and forth in my mind, as in... do I like him only as friends or more than friends? We have shared a few sweet goodnight kisses which felt nice but nothing intensely physical so far. I prefer to move slow and take my time to know someone well first. I know he really likes me because he told me. I told him I like him and would like to keep spending time with him. We just held hands the other night but I had to initate it---he seems kind of physically/relationship inexperienced but I don't mind because I can pace it. I have had some *thoughts* of being physically intimate with him. My last relationship was REALLY fast and fell apart really fast so this is very different for me. Is it normal to go back and forth like this? Sometimes I feel really attracted to him/want to get closer, and other times I feel like it's just nice to sit with him and be with him. Sometimes I have butterflies, but not always 100% of the time. Is this normal?? Am I supposed to feel it 100% of the time? I don't know if that means I don't like him as a boyfriend or not? The word boyfriend, well I'm not ready for that anyway I think.

[I wish]

Just keep spending more time getting to know each other and keep enjoying each other's company. There's no reason to rush into anything serious. Let things flow and see how your feelings develop.

[BK201]

From what you say, it is clear that the boy respects you as a woman a lot. It is not easy to find such guys these days because many are the hit and run type. Physical intimacy will be shown by him at the right time. You are taking it slow, and it is very good for a strong basement for your future.
And it is normal for you to have butterflies on and off. As for some, the butterflies fly only once in their relationship, at the beginning to be precise.

[ijustdonotknow]

He sounds like a keeper, he isn't forcing or rushing you. He respects what you say and do. I say give it a shot you will never know until you try. Or you'll know when you don't take the chance and you lose him that's when you realize that he's the one you wanted; so don't let that happen. Take a risk and if you still are unsure keep going at that steady pace, take your time into getting to know him. You may be shocked and find out that you like him a lot more than you think.