[vballchick4eva]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now and I love him dearly but I am so jealous of every girl that he talks too. When I first met him I was seriously depressed and somehow he brought me back to life and made my life so much better. I'm terrified to lose him (I hate to sound clingy but I am) I know he isn't cheating but I have this fear he will. (im not vain or anything but) I know I'm pretty but I know there's always girls out there prettier than me and he works with a whole bunch of girls I know are prettier than me and I'm so scared that he'll leave me for one of them or some other girl friend he has. I know he loves me I have been cheated on before and even though I didn't love that guy it hurt and I'm afraid that since I love this one its going to hurt so much more. Please help I'm trying not to be jealous, I even tried talking to him about it and he said there's nothing to worry about but I'm still scared. O really do hate to be immature but I just can't help this jealousy.

[talaniman]

You have not dealt with your past hurts, so now they are still with you in this relationship. Usually indicates you didn't heal enough to be in another relationship.

Come clean with your boyfriend, and tell him why you are jealous, and where your fear is coming from, and how hard you will work to overcome those fears. Then keep your word, by thinking once, twice, or three times, BEFORE you act or speak.

If you cannot, then get help from a professional, or this will ruin all your happiness, until you get yourself under control. How old are you?

[vanheart]

How about enjoying your boyfriend, without worrying if you are good enough, or if he is going to stray.

That's all in your head. Hes not your ex(s)

Trust that you are #1.

I agree w/Tal. You never got past the other ones before you got into this one. That's the root of your problem.

Be one with yourself first. Then you can truly give & not rely.

Maybe you aren't ready for a partner. If so, that's OK.

Just don't occupy yourself with worry, that isn't good for anyone.

Acting like that just puts pressure on you & him.

Giving love is always a risk, but can yield rewards if you are open & communicative.

[bullfight]

It is very difficult to get rid of this... We are all animals and hunters at heart. When we smell fear we attack. This basically translates into your boyfriend (and many men, or women) sensing the fear and counteracting it with what comes naturally - cheating.

Very hard to fix this without changing your understanding of who you are vs. who you "think" you are.

Work on yourself and don't worry if someone cheats on you. If they do, leave.

[msmorgan21]

I went through exact when you going through now. And now me and my boyfriend not together because I chase him away with my jealousy, I was always excusing him of cheating when he wasn't doing anything. So my advise to you is if you love your man, be happy and forget about your past relationship. He love you and only you that's why he is with you and not with other girls.