[Ren123]

I live in MN. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We would like to move forward (marriage) in our relationship, but are concerned with issues that may surface due to my boyfriend's past.

My boyfriend served prison time for 2nd degree attempted murder. It was domestic (his wife at the time). He had gotten caught up in drugs, his wife found out and soon filed for divorce (they had a young baby at the time). The divorce put him over the edge and they got in a physical fight. He choked her to the point that she lost consciousness for a while. She went to the hospital and was released the same day.

In the near year that I have been with him, I have no fear whatsoever of him. He made a major mistake in the past, has taken full responsibility for it, but how can we move forward (marriage) without having the risk of losing my child?

[ScottGem]

There is no law preventing it. However, your child's father may use his past to modify the current custody order. But, if you can prove that your boyfriend is rehabilitated, courts will likely not make a change.

[tickle]

He did his time (25 years I imagine) for that crime and has been out for a year, is that right? So he served his time and can move on with his life but does he have any other court appearances to get through. Is he on some kind remedial programme at all whereby he will be monitored in any way?

I don't see any reason why you two can't get married. Unless you want to consult with the legal system.\

Tick

[Ren123]

Thanks for your quick response. What kind of proof would we need to prove he is rehabilitated?

[ScottGem]

Character references. Statements from prison officials and probation officers, etc.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, the issue is that the bio father may use this to ask for a change in the custody. And it is just up to the judge opinion. How long he has been out of jail will be one issue.
If he has had professional anger counseling, will his counselor testify