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Draz · Jul 9, 2011, 08:01 PM

Okay, I turn 18 in about a month. August 30th, which is almost about the end of the month but still..
My school starts August 23rd and I start on a Tuesday..
I have a friend that is willing to take me in, and her/his mother said it was all right as long as my friend supports me she/he has a steady job at a factory and makes $10's an hour.

I've been wanting to move out, but I don't really know how to put it to my grandparents. I know that I should give it some thought before I make a hard decision. But I know I can do this, I have faith in myself and my friend that I'm going to be moving in with has faith in me also. I know that I should be prepared of when I do move out, I just need help trying to think of a way for my grandparents to understand, any suggestions?

And please, I want only honest and nice answers to this very important question of mine.
I MAINLY want to ask if they can stop me from moving out.

I LIVE IN OHIO, BY THE WAY.

Lyra123 · Jul 9, 2011, 08:04 PM

If you will be 18, I believe the only way they can stop you from moving out would be to have you declared unfit to care for yourself.

If you plan to move out, tell them a decent time before you do. It's never fun to deal with telling a parent or guardian that you are moving on short notice.

Wondergirl · Jul 9, 2011, 08:21 PM

Who is paying for school? Or it is senior year in high school?

How will you pay for food, car insurance, clothes, toiletries, etc?

Draz · Jul 10, 2011, 12:17 AM

My friend can, he/she already vowed to do it.

Lyra123 · Jul 10, 2011, 12:23 AM

Do you plan to get a job?

Draz · Jul 10, 2011, 12:27 AM

What do you think they would do if I did on short notice?

cdad · Jul 10, 2011, 05:06 AM

Your not even ready to move out. Your setting yourself up for a life of abuse if you do move at this time. You keep saying your "friend" is going to support you. Part of being an adult and not just playing one is responsibility. Get a job and save up enough money for your own place. Be self standing. If you place yourself in a position of dependency now you may end up staying there for life. That is how abuse happens. Get real, get a job, Save money and stand on your own before even considering any kind of move. And if this "friend" is a lover they are looking for easy access and the cycle has already started. End it before it goes further. Stand proud and be strong in the world.

ScottGem · Jul 10, 2011, 06:49 AM

First, when posting a follow-up question or info, please use the Answer options at the bottom of the page rather than the Comments.

Second, you did not answer the question about what school. If you are still in HS, your current legal guardians (I assume your grandparents) may still be responsible for you.

Why do you want to move out? We can't answer how to make your grandparents understand without knowing the background. Why would you exchange being supported by your legal guardians to being supported by a friend? What happens if you have a falling out with this friend, will your grandparents allow you to move back?

The likelihood is that your grandparents cannot stop you, but it seems to me you are making some foolish choices.

Originally Posted by Draz

and please, I want only honest and nice answers to this very important question of mine.
I MAINLY want to ask if they can stop me from moving out.

Please don't presume to dictate who can answer or how. As long as a response does not violate our rules (in which case you report it) anyone can answer in anyway they want. You are free to ignore any response you don't like or agree with.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 10, 2011, 07:12 AM

First stop the he/she silliness, it is so childish. If you want help be honest about what is happening.

Next what if after 2 months you fight and they kick you out, where do you go ? Or do you stay as a victim or abused to not be homeless.

And you have no idea the cost of things do you, 10 dollars a hour is not even close to enough money to live on for two people.

Wondergirl · Jul 10, 2011, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by Draz

I just need help trying to think of a way for my grandparents to understand, any suggestions?

Even I don't understand!! No, there's no rational way to explain this to your grandparents. You think you and your friend are going to be able to exist on $10 an hour (before taxes and FICA)?? With prices so high, that will hardly buy toilet paper for a week.

Draz · Jul 10, 2011, 09:43 AM

Yes, I've always wanted a job. So yes, I've planned to get one.

Lyra123 · Jul 10, 2011, 02:02 PM

I agree with the others, you really should wait.

I hadn't thought about the high school vs college aspect. Into which are you going?