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lonelyboy29 · Jul 7, 2011, 10:41 PM

First of all, we're both gays. We've been in 2 month relationship. At our first month we're both happy and every week we hanged out, but a few weeks ago many things had changed. His time for me had been lessen each day. I understand his situation because he already told me what to expect. He's an ENT doctor and he's so busy. Of course I understand that.

Then later on he told me that this is not the right time for him to have a relationship. I did my best to convince him not to break up with me because I really understand his situation. Then he told me that what kind of relationship I want? We can only go for date when he is free? While in my part is just to nod? He also told me that these past few weeks something is wrong about him. He should be excited when we're going to meet but in his head he really want to have some rest but because of this so-called responsibility, it only forces him to meet me up.

I know I should be get angry with him but I don't know why because I don't feel any negative feelings for him but to understand him. He told me that relationship won't work if both members won't participate and he's pertaining himself. I know the pride is in, but I think it's a noble pride, because he don't want me to understand him all the time while in his part he can't, or maybe he don't really want because he wants to spend his little time for himself.

So much pain in the inside because I didn't do anything wrong, and he agrees with it because he's the one who has a problem, but I really love him, I don't know why but I want to win him back. Please help me.

amicon · Jul 8, 2011, 11:04 AM

I think you must accept that his feelings have changed and it's time to let this go.

Do this now rather than try to hold on to something which isn't there anymore.

Jake2008 · Jul 9, 2011, 04:43 AM

I agree with amicon, your boyfriend left no grey area, the relationship for him, is over.

My advice to you is to not beat yourself up over this. You had a short, good relationship with an honest man, who knew that he was not in a position to be in a serious relationship at this time.

As hard as it is to accept, muster up all the dignity and courage you have, and accept his decision. Fight the urges to try to win him back as that will likely only see you further hurt, as he will not reciprocate, or encourage you in any way.

talaniman · Jul 9, 2011, 11:04 AM

I have to agree with the others as he was very clear a relationship is very low on his priority list, and he just doesn't feel as you do about it.

Accept it and move on and take the good memories with you, as you make more good memories with someone else.

Sucks to get dumped, but at least you are free to find someone that wants what you want.