[aogier1987]

I have this male friend that keeps wanting me to send dirty texts to him, I do try doing it but never know how to put it and what to say I find it difficult sending dirty texts because I find I get embarrassed when I do that kind of thing. I do want to word my words better but question is how do I do this better ?

[Synnen]

How old are you?

[aogier1987]

I'm 24 I always find it difficult when I'm sending dirty texts

[NeedKarma]

Text messages can be forwarded and copied. Do what you wish with that information.

[Synnen]

I don't understand why anyone would want to force themselves to do something they are not comfortable with sexually.

If you get embarrassed, don't do it.

[Cat1864]

Why do something you aren't comfortable with?

If this is a friend who you are not involved with romantically or sexually then why are you sending him 'dirty' messages?

Sex talk whether in person or on the phone is something that develops through communication and knowing the person you are talking to. It isn't something that you can get 'coaching' in. It has to come from you or it will sound like you are copying words from a book or movie.

Good luck.

[Fr_Chuck]

Tell them you prefer not to, if they keep trying to force you to do something you do not wish, they are not real friends and certainly not a boy friend ( I would hope you would not send dirty text to someone who is not a close friend.

Next it can be keep, copied, sent to other friends and more.

[aogier1987]

Oh right thanks for that but with this friend I don't think he'd send messages on to other people because if he did everyone on Facebook would have known including my friends to. But I'm always careful anyway, I'm just shy when It comes to dirty text messaging just wish there was a way where I wasn't like that. I did get tips off the net 2 do with dirty text messages how to write one etc and the tips actually worked, he kept wanting more but after all he stopped. I'm not sure if he fancies me or anything

[aogier1987]

Also he doesn't ask me to send dirty texts all the time it's every now and again he asks me what I want to do to him etc.

[NeedKarma]

[I'm not sure if he fancies me or anything

Why would you dirty talk with someone who isn't your boyfriend? Doesn't that sound a little odd to you?

[aogier1987]

Maybe it is a bit odd, I've asked him why and he said it's fun.

[Wondergirl]

I'm getting the idea that this guy is a controller and manipulator.

[aogier1987]

I always give in and I shouldn't do that.
I am just going to be careful from now on I think as never know what could happen.

[Wondergirl]

I always give in and i shouldn't do that.

Do you tend to be a people-pleaser? Do you have trouble saying no to anyone who asks you for something?

[aogier1987]

Well I have said no given hints but it's never gone anywhere even made excuses up , still begs me and I bloody stupidly give in just he'd stop begging and telling me to talk. I never know what to say in a text message especially when it's dirty texts.
I am a people pleaser yea, I do find it hard to say no but it's just when I have said no he don't give up. I think I should try and ignore text messages instead of replying, the thing is I always answer my texts and I don't like to ignore people but it's got to come to something when a friend wants one thing and wants to know what I want to do to him.

[Enigma1999]

The bottom line is that YOU are uncomfortable with all of this, as you should be. You don't know if these messages will be passed around to others.

Forget trying to please him just so he will stop begging.

If he is ANY friend at all, he will stop acting like a moron and respect your limitations! Period!

[aogier1987]

That's true. Any other male friend hasn't done that but he is the only one who has