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    Glam_Cupcake Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 7, 2011, 03:08 PM
    My ex boyfriend keeps texting me, but when we hang out he seems uninterested.
    My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago because he's going to be so busy with college stuff and dealing with family issues that won't go away and he just said that he's not going to have enough time to devote to a relationship. He did say he wants to remain friends, and it wasn't a bad break up.

    Ever since we broke up, he's been texting me constantly. Even more than when we were dating. He always texts me to let me know when he can hang out. If I don't reply immediately, he texts me again like 10 minutes later, or calls me. So yesterday I hung out with him, just as friends, but he was kind of "cold" with me if you will. Not mean, but not affectionate at all. I guess you can say a bit aloof towards me. I tried to give him a hug when he had to go but he just sort of tapped me on the back. He wasn't being all close to me like he did when we dated, and he seemed a lot more mellow. BUT, as I said, he's texting me even more than when we were dating, letting me know when he can hang out.

    So; he keeps texting me, ALL the time. Yet when I see him, it doesn't seem like he's interested. Do you think he likes me, or not? Thank you!
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    Jul 7, 2011, 03:26 PM
    Well, I wouldn't count on him. There's a saying I got from one of the "big guys" around here. "Don't make someone a priority in your life while being an option in theirs." I would limit conversations to call only (if that.. ), because he obviously wants someone to talk to, but hanging out and being so confused and hurt doesn't benefit you at all. Don't put yourself out there to get hurt.
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    Jul 7, 2011, 03:36 PM

    Why are you making this about what he's feeling or wanting... he's clearly looking out for himself enough.

    I think it's pretty clear what you want - and that is you want him to come back to you.

    1) He dumped you
    2) He's not giving you any affection

    It doesn't look like he's coming back. Were I you, I would ignore his calls and texts and get over him.

    You are single now, so spend time with your friends, get a new hobby, focus on school, or revisit an old hobby. Heal yourself and then you can start dating a guy who will call you, invite you out, and then SHOW YOU AFFECTION.

    That's what you deserve! You don't deserve to be on the internet asking strangers what the guy who dumped you is getting at. Do you see what I mean?
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    Jul 7, 2011, 03:41 PM

    I'm with southamerica. He dumped you. Don't respond to his texts. Ignore him. Don't meet up with him. You're out of his life (he's going away to college soon), and you're now looking forward to finding a new guy.

    Being friends after breaking up is impossible. It doesn't work.

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