[DeriBoo]

So I've never been interested in smoking weed. It's just never sounded fun to me and I have childhood memories of being around it and since then I just feel very uncomfortable when people smoke it around me, but my boyfriend is a straight up stoner. He smokes everyday and every chance he gets. I don't like hanging out with him and his friends because all they do is smoke and I'm the only one who doesn't and now my boyfriend thinks I don't like his friends, I have no problem with his friends I just don't like being around the weed. I'm just afraid that this is going to ruin us. I just need some help from someone who knows how I feel and where I'm coming from and can give me an idea on how to deal with this and so he can have is weed and I can be comfortable.

[southamerica]

Weed is becoming more accepted in society... and as such I think we need to start noticing that it CAN become addictive and certain behaviors involving weed should be treated as an addiction.

My ex, like your boyfriend, smoked daily... multiple times a day. I tried to keep my mouth shut, but it obviously concerned me that he hardly had a sober moment in his waking hours. He tried to take a week off smoking, and asked me to hold him liable. After three days he was so grumpy and downright mean to everyone that I asked him to smoke a bowl so he'd calm down. Guess what? It calmed him down. No one in their right mind can tell me that isn't some sort of addiction.

I'm not making any assumptions about your boyfriend, by the way. I'm sharing a story. My ex is still the same addict. Good guy, but he says he will smoke every day for the rest of his life. His current girlfriend is much more comfortable with that... so, great for them. I still care about him and we're still friends, but I could never marry that.

I advise you to understand and know the nature of your boyfriend's habit. That may mean having a conversation with him about it. Once you understand it, ask yourself if you can honestly live with what it is, marry it, and grow old with it (if that's his plan... to never quit. Many habitual stoners tend to have that idea. Habitual meaning daily).

Some stoners are completely normal, hardworking, good people. You wouldn't even know they smoked pot unless you saw them do it. That wasn't the case with my ex, but it's the case with other people I know and love. It's all about what you can accept and what your limits are.

I'm not advocating nor am I admonishing marijuana. What I am going to do is warn you that my experience has shown me that daily smokers tend to be lifers. I know several elderly people who have demonstrated that for me. Not right, not wrong, just my experience.

Be true to yourself and your limitations. Best of luck.