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sonu2 · Jun 28, 2011, 09:58 AM

Hi friends, basically I am a non bramhin Maharashtrian girl who is I love with a tamil bramhin guy we have 9 years of age difference I love him very very much but his parents are not agreeing to our marriage due to difference in caste, and my parents are also not agreeing due to age difference. He lost his dad when he was 3 years old also he is from very reserved south indian family because of his parents he is ignoring me I am not understanding what to do? I want to get married with him and settle down fast *** help me...

JudyKayTee · Jun 28, 2011, 10:18 AM

This question is asked all the time - there is no magic formula.

You may have the choice of obeying your family and not marrying this person OR marrying this person and being estranged from your family.

samji · Jul 4, 2011, 10:06 AM

Hi sonu, I'm facing the same problem and already tried a lot by asking help from others but no use, I suggest first of all you and your partner should make up your mind whether you want to marry or not. And than try to conveince your parents.
No one want to hurt their parents but sometimes we have to make hard decision. We belong to Indian society,where even after 100 years we will be still fighting with racism and castism. Take a firm decision and go ahead with it. U have to help yourself, by doing inter caste marriage u ll set example to others and in some way you will help nation. ALL THE BEST and GOD MAY HELP YOU TO SHOW RIGHT PATH.

sonu2 · Jul 5, 2011, 02:26 AM

Hi samji thks for your suggestion but my partner is not supporting me... he has started ingnoring me... I have become helpless...

JudyKayTee · Jul 5, 2011, 05:38 AM

Unfortunately you said at the very beginning that YOU want to get married and settle down. Apparently he does not.

samji · Jul 5, 2011, 09:47 AM

Sonu, I can understand your problem, You are not the only one who is facing this situation, you have to come up from situation, don't ignore your parents for some one who is ignorant to you. Stop feeling you are helpless, just look around and observe, you ll find people who is facing worst problems than yours, be nice and try to help them and some or other way it will pay you back.
You are young, divert your attention to something else. You must have sacrificed friends, hobbies, or time which you could have spend with parents, all for new relation. Just go back in past and start from new. Trust me it is not hard, U can do it. Concentrate in career.be bold stop being sati savitri and start looking for other boys. Even your partner will do the same.
It always simple to advice and write than to face it. Whatever time you have spent with your partner is best time of your life till now. But will you able to live your entire life with that time ? START NEW LIFE.. ALL THE BEST.

sumaiyaus · Feb 27, 2012, 12:27 AM

My name sumaiya.I am a Muslim our cultureil don't marriage for the our own uncle.it mean my mom brother. But I love my uncle.how to my problem solve them.please any idea for me

JudyKayTee · Feb 27, 2012, 06:38 AM

Is it illegal or against your religion?

gopiii · Mar 16, 2012, 10:51 PM

Parents are very important but they will not be with us though out life, but our partner who we choose for our life will be. If you marry the person whom you love, there is a chance that your parents may accept them in latter years. But if you marry another person you will satisfy your parents but miss the love forever. There are many ways to show your care and affection to your parents but it should not cost your life. It is better to marry the person you love.

*** This post was seriously edited and re-written. I will assume the OP did not speak or write in English well. I hope the content was not changed too much from what they wanted posted. *FC*