[fighter21]

So she's gone for good

[vanheart]

Yup.

Here's the thing.

Whether you are young or old. The first girl or last. It doesn't matter.

We make mistakes. Ive made tons.

Treat others as you wish to be treated. A simple rule. Don't break hearts. (not sure how exactly you did that) Doesn't matter anyway.

Sometimes our mistakes come with pain.

Karma always prevails. Don't try to repair it now. If I was her, I wouldn't want to see if you break her heart again. In fact, I would want someone that doesn't.

Be a man, move on, and learn from this for the next time.

If you do, you can be a better partner, at the right time.

Go NC now. Leave her be. Don't respond to her ever.

[fighter21]

I hear what your saying and thank you so much for your advice I appricate your time dealing with me

[vanheart]

Cool.

Glad that you are listening. I know what its like.

There's a time where we decide to break free of our pain & move on. Figure out ways to do so.

That's what you have to do.

Its easy & hard at the same time.

First thing, no her.
Next thing, all you.

Continue next thing for a while.
Repeat.

Then..

[fighter21]

Yeah that's basicallly what I'm going to do and like everyone say if its love we had then will be forever if its not then we weren't meant to be

[vanheart]

I believe that one too. A great one.

One of those sayings I laughed at until later...

[fighter21]

Yea so I'm just going to let it be and the truth will come out

[vanheart]

You already know the truth.

Give yourself a few months or a year. Without her in your daily life. Or thoughts.

Change sh%T

See how you feel then.

Then come back. Let me know how you are doing.

Im sure you will be happier.

[fighter21]

Yeah that's what ill do and she just texted me rightnow and she said that she can't believe I'm not talking to her for being honest with me

[vanheart]

You have 2 choices.

Either go NC, or not.

Stop texting her. Im starting to feel like you are playing us. Are you?

Later skater. Im going to bail..

Look up the NC rules.

[fighter21]

I'm not texting her at all I'm ignoring her

[vanheart]

Cool.
Delete her number.
Facebook, whatever.

Don't even look.

The less from her now, the better.

Sad, I know. But, the only way.

Use this method in the future. She isn't going to be the last one that breaks your heart.

Hopefully.

[fighter21]

Yeah I have already and I wanted to add that I was her first for everything and she was my first for everything so I don't know if that changes things a bit or is it the same

[vanheart]

Nope. Its all the same. Just stay on NC.

[fighter21]

Oh all right is there a possibily that my ex will realize I trully I'm the one for her and if she does what should I do that way I can be prepared to do the right thing

[vanheart]

No. You got it all wrong.

You are reverting.

Like you've been doing since you started here.

She isn't coming back. You shouldn't wait.

NC. Here's the link. Read it before you post again.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/nc-rules-faqs-510423.html

[vanheart]

Look back to talaniman's first answer.

That says it all.

[fighter21]

I'm not going to be waiting for her nor anything I'm doing the nc rule no matter what and I just read the link and that's what I'm going to do I was just saying that what if one day she appears and wants me

[vanheart]

Don't bet on it.

I guess you didn't REALLY read it.
Read it again. Let it sink in. Im leaving until you do.

[fighter21]

No I won't bet on it I just don't want to do the same mistake I did when she wanted me back I actually thought she was ready to be with me and love me but that wasn't the case and she hurt me