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ashwati_azmi · Jun 27, 2011, 09:10 AM

Hi friends, I am a Hindu (Namibia) girl and, I am in love with a Muslim guy. We can't even open up our relationship in our families since both of us are from really narrow-minded families and, none of our family members even had a love marriage. The caste difference is the only problem but yes, it is a very big issue and now we are really worried about what to do. Hope I'll get an answer from you guys.

JudyKayTee · Jun 27, 2011, 10:05 AM

What is your question? How to tell your parents that you want to marry?

Something else?

talaniman · Jun 27, 2011, 04:31 PM

How old are you both and how long have you been in love?

Are you both employed, and have education, and careers?

Are you both on the same page as to the religion your kids will be raised in?

Are you both willing to go against your parents on this issue, and many others?

If you have not discussed a true strategy for the future, forget convincing parents that you love each other enough to tackle any obstacle necessary to thrive and survive in the very real cruel world.

ashwati_azmi · Jun 29, 2011, 08:12 AM

I am 20 and he is 24.. and we know each other for 5 years and our relationship is about an year old.. iam a student and he is working... as to what religion our kids v haven't really discussed about that but will do that soon... and v both are looking forward in convincing parents rather than just take decision on our own.. all we know is we really want to be together..

ashwati_azmi · Jun 29, 2011, 08:14 AM

Yes, how to convine parents..

southamerica · Jun 29, 2011, 08:45 AM

I am in the USA, and even here it is recommended that couples ask each other the hard questions before they marry (like those Talaniman suggested)-this is without the castes.

Consider what your strategy is before you approach your families: what religion will you raise your family? Where will you live? How will you support yourselves if your families refuse?

The more prepared you are, the more the conversation with your families has a chance of running smoothly. I can't say I know a lot about castes, but I do know that love marriages can still get very rocky if you don't insure you are on the same page before embarking.

I do wish you the best of luck.