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giseletacheny · Jun 24, 2011, 07:37 PM

So I've only dated this guy for a couple months but during those months I find out I have cervical cancer. It's just in the beginning stages so the first process was to have surgery. Well during the process of setting up the surgery, I find out I'm pregnant. I'm against abortion and even though my doctors highly recommended termination for my own health, I decided to put the surgery on hold and have this baby. The father of the baby freaks out that I decide to have this baby instead of having the surgery so he dumps me. Since then he has blocked my number, blocked my on Facebook. This all happened about 3 months ago and he still is pretty angry about the whole situation. Is there any hope he'll come around or it a lost cause? Thanks for any help by the way, I really appreciate it!

Fr_Chuck · Jun 24, 2011, 07:54 PM

Who knows, so you have the child, file for custody and file for child support, after that, if he wants a relationship with the child, he can ask for visits

talaniman · Jun 25, 2011, 08:07 AM

I doubt he changes much, but he will get over the shock, maybe not enough to try and be a family though, so don't count on any support from him. Make decisions based on what you need for yourself, and your child, and let the courts decide what happens later.

What you do is ALL your decision to make, not his any more.

Bittertruth · Jul 12, 2011, 07:39 PM

When that baby comes out of you, he'll come back. But If its going to kill you then... I think you should go through with the abortion because the fetus is not living yet. Do it before its too late.

Cat1864 · Jul 12, 2011, 08:19 PM

Bittertruth, the op is at least three to four months pregnant. Probably closer to five or six if not farther along. It is very much a living entity at this point. Plus, she has already stated she doesn't believe in abortion. Her choice has been made. Hopefully, she is having a safe pregnancy with all things considered and will have a healthy child.

Gisele, if you come back, there is always a chance that when the child is here and more 'real' to him, he will want to be a part of the child's life. However, you were dating for a short time before two very life altering events came up that he may not be able to handle the situation mentally and emotionally for quite awhile. That does not excuse his behavior especially if he is the only person who could be the father. A lawyer and the court system are probably going to be your next step in dealing with him after the baby is born.

May you have a safe and healthy pregnancy.