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Hailie · Jun 22, 2011, 12:50 PM

I Like My Very Close Cousins Bf Its Her First Bf. When ever I go to her house me and her secretly talk about her relationship with her boyfriend (even though I haven't met him)the way she makes it sound he sounds really cool and that he has six pack and all of that etc.. Also she says that they've both had normal sex and stuff but that isn't my question . I feel jealous but she goes to me His Friend James is still available and he's cute and everything even though I haven't seen James she has showed him my pictures now she goes he's to scared to meet me in school and that he asked my cousin to come with her but my cousin said "no i gotta go home or my mum will start wondering that I've got a secret" so he goes Ok but he told her that he'll meet me up in school But James never even came so she told me to forget him

And I don't even know if James and Her Bf (Alex) even exist p.s. her boyfriend goes to Hodge hill mix and she goes to Hodge Hill girls . And she told me that she's been dating him since 2010 in October or September and now its 2011 in June almost a year :) . I'm happy for her but when she goes into him in details I want to have him... Please help

(I'm 16 n never had a boyfriend before I almost have one but he's like a good friend)

Homegirl 50 · Jun 22, 2011, 02:02 PM

If you had a boyfriend of your own you would probably not give your cousin's boy friend a second thought.
Since you have never met the guy and may not, what you feel for him is immaterial.
If it bothers you that much, when she starts to talk about him change the subject.

Jake2008 · Jun 23, 2011, 08:13 AM

I hope before you start dating seriously, that you consider one basic rule. Respect and boundaries.

If he is dating someone else, he is off limits. If you don't set this standard, you will find yourself with a new boyfriend, but it will cause a rift with your cousin, that shouldn't have ever happened.

Girlfriends last a lifetime, and those friendships should never, ever be compromised over a boy. Boyfriends will come and go, never compromise a friend.

If a boy starts to make moves on you, and you know he has a girlfriend, he is NOT worth your time; don't lower your standards to ever accept a cheater, and don't become one yourself.

Three people never work in a relationship. Someone just out of a relationship is also not available because they are on the rebound, and until they have healed from the last relationship, you will not be getting a person who is able to begin a new relationship. Watch that trap for yourself as well.

Respect and integrity are qualities that should never be compromised with other girls/women, particularly and specifically when it comes to boyfriends or potential boyfriends.

Enjoy and nurture your friendships with your girlfriends; if you stick to thinking and behaving in an honourable way, those friendships will last a lifetime.

Hailie · Jun 23, 2011, 12:16 PM

That's True thanks... But Like Once In December she told me that he said that "does your cousin have big boobs" (and I was like omg ) and she was like Why and he was like Because ""james"" Asked and she was like yeah.. But Idk I think Alex Her Bf seen my pics and wants me but I isn't sure he's Abit Weird though but this is sort of tough but my best friend likes me as a friend and has a girlfriend already . :\ since today and I'm Like Oh Great there is good looking guys in my class but they are to Boy and don't even like me in that way... but thankks for the advice :).. But I believe I'll meet him soon because my cousin told me that she'll make him meet me and I isn't worried because I like him but Idk how he looks because mine and my Cousins taste are sort of different but I think she's using him and I don't want her to end up hurt because I know love hurts so badly :) Thank-You Much Appreciated :) :) :P

Jake2008 · Jun 23, 2011, 12:28 PM

You're sure right Amy- love hurts. I wish I could have avoided all the pain with boyfriends over the years myself. And I do believe love is blind sometimes too. I guess we all have to kiss a lot of frogs before we find our prince!

Hailie · Jun 23, 2011, 12:35 PM

Deleted for chat/text, and unreadable.

Curlyben · Jun 23, 2011, 12:44 PM

Would you repost this using proper ENGLISH, as it is currently unreadable.

RickJ · Jun 23, 2011, 12:48 PM

Hallie, PLEASE don't use text talk on this site. Your post is next to impossible to read. There are lots of knowledgeable people here eager to help, but if they have to work to hard to try to understand what you are saying, then you won't get many responses.

PS -

You asked basically the same question twice. Your two questions have been merged into this one thread.

Hailie · Jun 23, 2011, 12:55 PM

Hmm , Ok I will Try But I Write Pretty fast so I'm Sorry .

RickJ · Jun 23, 2011, 01:45 PM

Originally Posted by Hailie

Hmm , Ok I will Try But I Write Pretty fast so I'm Sorry .

The clearer you are with what you say, the better we can help.

Hailie · Jun 25, 2011, 07:28 AM

Bf = Boy friend... Anything else?

RickJ · Jun 25, 2011, 07:32 AM

Originally Posted by Hailie

Bf = Boy friend ... Anything else?

Even I, and old man, knew that one. What I'm talking about is using complete sentences and not going into TMI.

For best results on this website: State the main facts and then sum it up with a clear question.

talaniman · Jun 25, 2011, 07:45 AM

How about updating your current situation, so you can get feed back, and input. Your other update was deleted as very unreadable, so start there, and be clear. Take your time, speed isn't the goal, but clarity is.

You have to help us help you.

Hailie · Sep 12, 2011, 11:06 AM

Easy for you boys to say.. Girls are the ones who are shy. But you guys should ask the girl out but I can be wrong because it can be a boy liking a girl But for you boys there's 1,0000969 beautifull faces but for us girls its like 1 to share and There's not that much cute guys :P