[AverageJoe1]

Hi all.

I am as my avatar suggests an average looking guy, small in height but have a good job, own home and car.

But I don't get attraction interest or indications that women fancy me... If I show attraction interest or indications of interest in them I get rejected... or the lets just be friends.

Whilst I see the same girl go crazy for taller, (In my opionion, less good looking guys) who treat them like ****...

This gets me very very very depressed...

Been single for many many years and can't fully understand why I have such a low success rate or interest from women... I must be one ugly man... All I can think off !


Why don't women show an attraction interest. Why is it always me having to show an interest in them... only to be rejected.

[I wish]

If you're a specific type of guy, then you need to be with a specific type of girl to match you well.

You can't expect ever girl on the street to fall for you, but you can put yourself in a position to meet more people so that you increase your chances of finding someone who matches you well.

What type of initiatives do you take to meet new people?

[redhed35]

Where is your confidence man!

Confidence trumps height, weight, looks, poor or rich.

Women like a confident man, that's what gets there attention, once you have that they will see the nice guy you are.

Walk tall, tell yourself you're a hot attractive man with loads to offer, then date all types of women don't stick to just one type.

Me personally never thought I would find a decent guy in a pub or club, that's for fun stuff, with friends and the having the craic, look closer at your life and see where you could meet women who have similar interests to you, then go there!

[talaniman]

I got to tell you guy, if you stop looking for a companion/girl friend, and focus on building a life that you enjoy, with friends, family, and activities that make you happy, you interact with good people of similar interests and life styles, and increase your chances of having a great time with no pressure to perform, or impress.

You will attract people who want to share in your happiness, and be able to just be yourself, and put your best foot forward. You make friends, and they have friends, and you never know, in the relaxed environment of having fun, and enjoying your interactions with others, not only will you build your own confidence, but things will flow for you naturally.

Let's be friends is a great thing to hear, because like I say, once people are comfortable being around you and knowing you, they won't hesitate introducing you to their own friends. When you step into the local "meat markets", of course you never know who you might find, or what approach to take. They are there to meet someone to, to see, and be seen, and you never take a rejection personally, I mean NEVER, as its more them and there life, than you and your looks. Its hit or miss. And what if this stranger has there own problems, or issues to deal with? Their problem, not yours.

I think you do better meeting quality people through the course of a busy active social life. May as well enjoy yourself, while you wait for life to do you a great favor. Attract them, don't chase 'em.