[Lovely33]

So, the most recent 'almost' boyfriend I had fell through and I'm wondering why?

He goes to another college in a different state (still drivable), and is one of my roomate's closest friends. He seemed like a nice guy, and was super cute, so I think she introduced us on skype or something-we became social media friends etc. For a while it would just be a comment here or there, but then we started talking more and more, and even tweeted each other. He would tell me things like 'sweet dreams' after I would tell him something super nice. Because you see, he's so attractive but insecure. Then he asked my roommate for my number, and I ended up giving it to him, and he gave me his-we started texting. It was really feeling like it was headed somewhere. We just clicked. Everybody was saying how we should just date already. I honestly thought we would have been so adorable. He even invited me to come visit, and he said he would come but it fell through. All of the sudden out of no where he has a girl friend. Not to be rude either seriously, but she is not fortunate looking. I just want to know what happened? Things were going so well, but I was blindsided. Is it because she was at his disposal and at his same school? Thank you very much for the help!

[redhed35]

All of a sudden he has a girlfriend!
He does not sound insecure at all, from your post I'm getting that he was flirting and maybe playing around with the possibility of dating you, but the other girl was handy, no travelling etc, end of the day, he was just not that into you.

[Lovely33]

Its complicated I know, he honestly is though, I almost think he's dating her because he doesn't want something that could be real. I get it, I just was very disappointed.

[ydaisysm]

Did you ever talk about each others love lives or ahving a relationship together? If not maybe he either liked her all along or wasn't sure of your feelings for him and knew hers and if you did then I'm afraid he may not be the nice guy that you thought he was, not necessarily a bad one maybe just one which was conflicted or confused.

Maybe he had a history with this girl or they are close friends already so it meant that because of this that having a relationship was easier for them because of already knowing each other sow well which can't be helped by you.
The distance alsoprobably didn't help because it would mean that it was hard for you to see each other and many guys think that if they like a girl who lives a distance a way it's wrong to go out with them when you can't see them all the time so sometimes think another guy might be better and if he is insecure this seems likely.

[talaniman]

Actually nothing went wrong, he just chose another for romance. Happens all the time for whatever reasons.

You had high hopes but it didn't work out, now you have to get over the shock, and DISAPPOINTMENT, learn from the experience, and move forward to other options and opportunities. Maybe there are none now, but there will be.

[Lovely33]

I mean I think he knew that I liked him. All people would do is say that. But true, thanks =)

[Lovely33]

It's just that, I hate getting my hopes up then crushed out of no where. I've had to get over this before, I will with time I hope.

[talaniman]

That's a risk we take for interacting with other humans on any level. We move on... eventually, to the next opportunity.

[Lovely33]

Truth. However, it seems to happen to me more than the normal occasion. I just don't understand why people can't be as good or dependable as I am to them.

[talaniman]

I learned to accept people for who they are, flaws and all. I just take extra care in finding out who they are. So will you.