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finity55 · Jun 20, 2011, 09:23 PM

Long story short, I cheated last year (gf of one year), told her about it 2 months ago, and now we're on an indefinite break. The initial break was for me to "get where i need to be" but now that I am, she says she doesn't know if she feels the same way about me. We still remain in contact everyday (part of me feels as though I owe it to her since I ultimately messed this up) but part of me feels like that contact isn't helping (btw its 2-sided contact, I don't nag her incessantly) . We also have agreed not to date other people until we sort this out. We recently spent the weekend together, but it ended with the same feelings as before- I want her back, she doesn't know if she's ready yet. Best way to handle this? I feel like not talking to her could make things work, after all I feel like she is trying and definitely giving me a chance here, since I messed this up to begin with. Im just afraid of letting her have her cake and eat it too, until she has decided she doesn't want to be with me for good i.e. by talking to her all the time and being there all the time I'm not being strong, confident, and the greener grass on the other side of the fence until she meets someone that is. I also feel like I need to give her the opportunity to miss me to realize what she doesn't have anymore. Any advice here?

amicon · Jun 20, 2011, 11:02 PM

So long as you can't sit down and have an adult conversation in order to try and resolve your problems this is heading for a breakup.

In a committed relationship people solve their troubles together ,they don't go on breaks.

Bearing in mind that you cheated,I can see where your girlfriend is coming from...

Wondergirl · Jun 20, 2011, 11:21 PM

It sounds like it's over. I'm not getting that she misses you and wants you back in her life. Like Amicon said, avoid her, stop texting and talking to her, move on and stop spinning your wheels.

If you really love her, let her go.

Lovely33 · Jun 21, 2011, 12:28 AM

You cheated, obviously you don't care for her as much as you say. You hurt her. You don't deserve to be forgiven. Its guys like you that ruin girls hopes.

talaniman · Jun 21, 2011, 10:53 AM

Cheated huh?! And you think you won't be punished for breaking the trust and her heart? She is making you pay the consequences of your actions. So either let her eat her cake, and decide if you are worth the risk of a second chance, or walk away, and let her decide without you, or your influence.

Its really up to her, and not you, as you gave up control when you crossed the lines of good behavior.