[talaniman]

Have you ever asked her why she didn't at least give you a good bye kiss??

Are you sure this is an exclusive committed relationship, or just a deep friendship?

Define intimate, and more intimate, if you have never kissed. This is strange to

Me.

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Same girl?

[aluenee]

Hmmm. Yeah it's the same girl.. Yeah we were frens, then got close fren then like lover and also best frens.. I can't define intimacy between me and her. I just know is that I love her so much.. I don't know even if its love or frenship or whatever it is but I do feel for her and I'm serious about these feelins so do her.. yeah we have discussed about that last matter about kiss many times why we didn't kiss.. She also says why she didn't she don't know. But now is ready for kiss. Lets see if we kiss each other after 100days.. She'll be here I can meet her. Then we'll know about it..


Bythe way talking about me andher, its more improved.. We discussed about this relationship matter with his uncle's son. And from that time its little better.. She had said she don't want to be in relation right now because there is no certainty of beingtogether in future. And I'd said her to be in relation so that I'll not feel insecure about her anymore.. By the way, she was unknown that whatever we were having itsalready relationship.. She is little stupid,always thinks about others but not me and her ever.. Hee hee.. But it has improved than previous.. Hmmm.. She'll be here after hundred days, if we kiss each other then I'll be sure about her, I won't have to feel insecure about her anymore.. Who knows about future na. We don't know what will happen in future buttill that time I want to be bestwith her. But sad matter is that we can't see each other for a year.. Only phone calls, chat, sending pic.. But I know she loves me too as I do her.. Was it good not kissing her before? Although,she had denied me previously.. Before she was in relationship with other guy. She love me but she was still in so called relationship with next guy soi had never approached her for kiss or anything more. But we have held each other hands.. And it was automatic. What do you have to say about these all?

[talaniman]

I caution you not to get carried away by your intense feelings. You seem to have a good friendship, but no commitment for a romantic relationship, or future. How old are you and an idea of the general culture would help.

[aluenee]

This is about the girl whom I love.. She is now abroad for study and for now she is having her exams.. The way of us being in contact is internet chatting or calls.. Regular calls is not possible. So just Facebook mails and chat is the way. But now a days I don't know what's getting on her mind she doesn't contact me.. Not even a single mail a day nor a miss call.. she says her sim is not working and has exams. But to the contrary, before she used to contact me regular with four five mails per day, sms, and chat.. She used to say, please be in contact always. But now she herself is being out of contact from me. I don't know why she's doing so. I love her she does too. And it has been six days of no contact and may be forty days of just a little contact between her and me. Gap between me and her, I don't like it, and I don't think its good for us who are staying in relation despite of this distance.

I understand that she has exams. But that doesn't mean that she doesn't have time for being in contact with me. As if she spends twenty four hours on her study without taking meal,bathing,talking with her friends and bla bla... She had been saying me that balance in her sim(of her cellphone) gets reduced to zero just after recharging.. So I had said her to take next sim, which is just half an hour work or fifteen minutes.. But she said she'll do it after her exams which will take more than fifteen days more. When I had exams I had been contact with her. She had complained me for not sending one message out of four a day, but now what is she doing? If I want, I can ignore her.. But I can't because I love her a lot. Just few days ago she had apologised me for not being in contact for a day, but now when she has been out of contact of a week, she didn't even admitted this and talked with me as if nothing happened.

Am I over reacting? Shouldn't she contact me despite of her exams just taking out five ten minutes a day? What shall I do? I'm freaked out of her behaviour.

[I wish]

Something is definitely up. You will definitely need to have a conversation with her at some point in time. Just send her a message letting her know that you would like to have a talk when she has time and then wait for her to respond. By letting her know that you want to have a talk, then she will let you know what's on her mind when she's ready, because she would know that you're waiting to hear from her.

In the meantime, get busy and do other things. Thinking about it too much can make you overanalyze things and imagine things that may not exist.