[andrew58307]

OK so I've been with my girlfriend for a year and 3 motnhs, everything was going great, we rarely ever got into arguments, we were both extremely happy. She's 19 and I'm 22, about 4 motnhs ago she tells me she has feelings for another guy in one of her classes at university (hes more into the things she likes), we talked about it and she worked on forgeting about him. Months pass and things are getting serious, we talk about getting our own place, and that she wants to get engaged. Then out nowhere she says we need a break, and thinks were both unstable right now. I agreed with her so I can let her have her space. During that 1 week break she told me the guy asked her out on a date and she accepted. The day after her date I had to talk to her. She said she loves me and was happiest girl ever,doesn't want me out of her life. But wants to see this guy and explore abit. I was her first and only relationship, and first for everything. She still admits her feelings are very strong for me but her gut feeling says she did the right thing. She has a very hard time opening up about her feelings and her parents were really on her to get a job. She also says that I didn't do anything wrong. She said I deserve to be loved more. But I know from experience that she loved and there's no question about it. We did a lot together and showed her new things (fishing, quading, target practice) all these things she loved to do after I showed her

What do I do? Could it be she needs to see if the love she had for me was true and needs to compare it on someone?

[amicon]

She's young,she wants to explore-you let her go.

If it's true love you don't need breaks to go off and date others,nor do you need to make comparisons.

[I wish]

You've become her backup plan. She's going to go explore with this guy, if she likes, you're out the door. If she doesn't like, she'll come back to you. But I wonder how long it will be before a third guy comes along.

Do you really want her to drag you around like this?

[andrew58307]

But she's too kind of a person to make me her back up plan. I just don't see how her feelings towards me be so strong then turn around an change within a week or two. Like we were romanticly in love just a week before, nothing seemed out of the norm.

[amicon]

They didn't-she's been thinking along these lines for some time-only she didn't tell you.

And,sadly,I agree with I wish-you are the back up plan-bad place to be-time to get busy and leave her to her 'exploring'.