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    gonzalez1992 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 8, 2011, 03:29 PM
    How to stop being so sad and insecure?
    I am so use to getting hurt that I don't really trust guys much. Just got ina relationship a week ago and I'm already thinking he's going to dump me. He's a sweet guy and caring. Even though most of the time I end up textin him first. But he replies quick. I made him mad today when I thought he was making an excuse to not see me. I don't think it was an excuse after he told me. Help me?
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    Jun 8, 2011, 07:55 PM

    Maybe you are not ready for a relationship yet, or have not healed sufficiently from the last failed relationship. How long has it been?

    Try this, stop and think before you act or speak, count to 10 if you have to before you open your mouth, and see if you can have thoughtful remarks instead of impulsive words, and actions. Do this until it becomes a habit to think before you speak or act.

    Changing your thoughts will change your actions, and changing your actions changes your results. Changing the results of your actions will change your outlook.
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    Jun 8, 2011, 08:06 PM

    Why are you so down on yourself? Did adults disappoint you and even fail you when you were growing up so that you lost your trust of them?
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    Jun 11, 2011, 10:38 PM
    Even though you have been hurt before you need to give people chances. If this guy is a sweet guy then you need to forget about the past and give this guy a chance. You need to stop worrying so much and just trust him and trust yourself to that you can do this. Just move on and leave everything in the past.
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