[patica]

My husband don't help me with anything we have been married for only 2 years and we have not had no honymoon yet because every summer he have his kids when we got married he had the kids he don't think about anything but his kids he don't even want to work I do all the working paying all the bills and he don't want to have sex I'm just here to pay the bill so what should I do somebody please help me

[Jake2008]

Your question was, "i need help want to get away from my husband", so are you already leaning toward divorce?

After only two years, I'm curious to know if he has changed, after the wedding, or if he was the same person before the wedding. If he was the same person, and you accepted his children and his obligation to them then, what has changed. And was he working when you married him, and when did the intimacy stop- or did it stop because you are so unhappy.

Do you argue a lot? Have you talked to him about how you feel? How does he react to making changes, or wanting to make changes to improve the marriage.

Did you get yourself into a situation you thought you could handle (or make better after marrying him), only to find that after two years you feel you are only there to pay the bills?

If he were to change, what would you expect of him, and are you willing to try to save your marriage now?

[patica]

No he have change I really don't know this man we haVE BEEN seeing each other for 4 years before we got married this man have did a 360 on me all this man won't is his kids and yes he was working but after we got married this man quit his job and this man talk to his baby mother everyday now and when the kids do come up here I find out at the last minute its like what I say don't matter because he know I would say we have not had know summer to are self since we got married and how nis you gone work when your kids up here and she spend all the time in the world with her man without her kids and we don't sleep together when they is up here they sleeps with him see I'm really trying but this is making me crazy. He won't listen to anyone his boys come frist all I do is pay bills why he ***** allday about sh--- I really am looking for me a place of my own and yes we do argue all the time and sometimes he even put his hands on me and I'm not going for that this man is crazy or should I say this women because that's how he act and I forgot he don't like my dauther at all and she never disrerespect him its because my kids is not his all my kids is grown so I so done with kids and he know this before we got married don't get me wrong yes I love his boys very much but all I won't is for use to go on trips and out to places together we don't do sh--- and my dauther don't stay with use she stay by her brother house she been staying over there since she was 15 and she is 17 now.se I have to put up with a lot with this man please tell me what to do I well try but I tried everything all ready.

[Jake2008]

I can understand your frustration after marrying a man, and having him change so much. It is sad that your daughter is not with you because of him as well.

But, it is what it is. You are very unhappy for many reasons, and nothing gets resolved for the benefit of you and your husband. Arguing until things become physical will eventually lead to more violence. Keeping the marriage together as it is, doesn't mean anything is going to get better, and it probably won't.

I think that you looking for your own place right now is the best thing for yourself. Get some distance between yourself and him.

Should he begin to come around and want to make things work, be prepared to know where you stand. If you consider going back, it might be a good idea to have some conditions. The first one would be marriage counselling. There will have to be a lot of negotiating with a third party in order to have some reasonable expectation of change, should you decide to try again.

I really wish you all the best, and I agree with you that under the present circumstances, it is best that you leave.