[Sanktia]

I have worked with this a guy for a while and we ended up sleeping together. He did not even give a hint that he's married, even when I asked him how his girlfriend feels about him traveling so much. He did not say anything. Instead, what he did seems to indicate that he is still available. We all left the coutry after we had sex the night and no contacts anymore.

Till I find out only recently that he's married for 5 years. I am really really really mad that he lied about this and kept chasing me. I feel like I am such a fool.we are going to meet some time anyway and how do I handle him?

[Cat1864]

Whether the other female was his girlfriend or his wife doesn't really matter since either way he would not have been available. Or was asking him how his girlfriend feels about him traveling a fishing expedition to see if he was available?

From this point on, be professional and polite. Don't confront him, curse him out, question him, etc. Let it go and move on. Keep your head high and your dignity intact.

You learned a valuable lesson or two. No need to hold on to the negative feelings toward him or, more importantly, yourself. Enjoy your life, be a bit more careful in the future, and remember that there are men out there who are great guys and are available.

If he tries to say or start something, put the discussion back on company business. If he continues the 'chase', explain that you are not going to aid him in cheating on his wife and if he continues you will go to management and report his behavior.

In an effort at being fair, how did you find out he is married and could that information be incorrect?

[talaniman]

Keep it business, and make sure he knows YOU know he is married and there will be no more BS, from this lying, cheater.

It would be better to not meet, but business is business, and next time get the facts before you give up the goods.

Sorry you had to learn a valuable lesson the hard way. Next time do your homework, before you believe someone.

[Lovely33]

No. Its wrong. If he lies to you now, he will lie again.

[amicon]

You handle it by being business like and distant-should he mention meeting up again make sure he knows you know he's in a relationship.

He's a cheat and a liar-avoid at all costs.

[goodluckchip]

Same here... except mine claims not to be married just living with her... every word out of his mouth for months has been a lie.. and now he is claiming a breakdown and she's helping him through it... BS... it was his way out of all his lies... sad... I have no idea what he wanted from me.. no sex... just a lot of talk and keeping each other company... but once a liar and cheat always one... he's narcisistic and claims to need a lot of attention... is very high maintenance... I forgiv emyself because I asked all the right questions and was repeatedly lied to until I caught him... good ridance...