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    LadyLuckyy Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 3, 2011, 09:03 PM
    Feel wronged
    First, let me talk about a cousin sister of mine: She's at her 30s, looks young, rich and already a big child's mother. She's a happy woman. Her husband , a handsome guy gives all she needs. I see her husband as a big brother, he treats me well, especially when I was a kid.but this all because we are relatives ,no other things. My cousin sis and her husband loved me when I was young. We were good buddies. I see all this just like family members, I don't see her husband as a dating guy.
    Later after I went to university and became a young lady, things changed. My cousin sis seemed she wouldn't like to treat me well any longer, and was trying to cut off all the contacts between me and her husband. Phone number changed and her husband's speak less when we met. She became suspicious.
    You that's all right. Maybe cause I am not a little girl any more and need my own 'bf'. Okay, then I stopped all the contacts between me and her husband and also the contacts with her.
    We seldom meet together, we still talked only when we met at family parties. But just some simple words. Very normal . But I felt a bit hurt.
    Few years passed. This all became meaningless, I forgot all.
    Sever weeks ago when at one of family's funeral, I found she still suspicious? She didn't give any chance to let her husband to stay with me together even talk! And she seemed not to want to talk to me. A little hated me. And I don't know why?? Am I a love rival?
    Her words full of jealousy, just because I got a little bit better look than her?
    I feel very wronged. That's unfair to me. Its OK when we not meet. Problems come when we do. I feel very uncomfortable. What to do?
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Jun 4, 2011, 11:27 AM

    Don't be so sensitive to the behavior of your cousin, you don't interact with her that much for it to mean anything other than a temporary annoyance.

    Let it go, because as it is rude behavior, not worth holding on to. I mean how else would you expect rude, insecure, immature people to act? They are who they are.

    What matters is why you let their attitude spoil your own. Don't let it, because it doesn't have to.
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    Jun 4, 2011, 11:27 PM
    Is it possible that you are reading too much into this? What reason would your cousin have to be jealous of you and her husband, if nothing had ever happened.

    It seems there is some rift between you and BOTH of them.

    If I were you, I would speak directly to your cousin, and ask her if you have done anything wrong, or perhaps said anything that was maybe taken the wrong way. You have nothing to lose, and perhaps a closer relationship with your cousin to gain.
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    LadyLuckyy Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 5, 2011, 12:42 AM
    I did nothing. They are like strangers to me, no contacts several years.
    :)
    She made the rift, just worrying about her own husband to be stoled by other women.especially some who are prettier than herself.
    Lol

    Forget about it, who cares.

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