[angel8817]

OK here's the deal I like this girl a lot and I mean a lot but she is seeing another boy but she says she likes me just as much as him but she can't break off from him because she's been seeing him for 2-3 months and have met his parents but doesn't want to hurt anybody... im not being vain but I am better looking them him I'm not a bad person I'm not a player and id do pretty much anything for most people in a snap of a finger,I've spent the day with her today and it went really well we had a good time but what am I to do? Am I to wait? Do I put all my chances of getting with her on the line and tell her to choose? Or do I just leave it please somebody shed some helpful advice on my situation PLEASE :(

[Wondergirl]

Leave her alone. She is taken. Your good looks have nothing to do with anything. In fact, if your heart is ugly and you are a player and a thief, your reputation will suffer.

[talaniman]

You say your not a player, so why are you messing with a girl behind her boyfriends back? Hmmm, maybe she is the player, and you are getting played!!

Leave girls with boyfriends alone, and get your own. Lot less drama that way.

[Sumitkumar7266]

Leave her.. Let her go.. She is loving two guys at the same time and she is making you fool by her words... She want you as a backup.. Leave her and never go back..

[Jake2008]

You sound very desperate at the prospect of having this girl as your own girlfriend. She sounds like a very bad choice as she is willing to entertain the idea, and, actually tell you she likes you as much as your boyfriend- she's putting both you and her boyfriend, in some sort of selfish competition. Seems like you aren't winning.

Anybody in a serious relationship with someone else- is off limits. Whether she makes that clear or not, you should set your standards a little higher. Stop crossing the line of honourable behaviour by stabbing the boyfriend in the back, and allowing yourself to be in anybodys 'second place'.

As to standards, show a little respect for yourself, and raise the bar a little bit. Try not to stoop to such a degree that you allow yourself to compromise right from wrong. You know she is off limits, whether she thinks so or not.

Tell her YOU won't be played, and if and when she IS free to date someone else, after she breaks up with her boyfriend, you MIGHT consider getting together. But only then. And hopefully if that ever happens, you will see HER as a player, and will have moved on to a better quality person, and relationship, yourself.