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    May 25, 2011, 10:17 AM
    Am I expecting too much from a Fwb?
    So I know this will be a weird question but please don't flame me as it's a bit aggravating... I'm a guy. I kind of had a crush on this girl I hooked up with a couple times last year. So I hadn't seen this girl in a while but last week she asks me out to grab drinks. She tells me she has a boyfriend in another state that likes to watch her do videos... She wants to know if I'll be down to be her Fwb that does the videos with her anything goes... Sounds pretty cool I guess so far... I tell her my face can't be in them and I'm good... Well we hook up the next night and film one... I text her over the weekend to see if she wants to hookup again but she says she's tired and maybe later in the week... I'm a bit irritated because I'm just looking to have my booty call available more often but it seems as though were on her schedule... And maybe we should be... But I'm not looking to date this girl just get more fun from it... Am I asking too much?
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    May 25, 2011, 10:44 AM

    How old are you?
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    May 25, 2011, 03:18 PM
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    May 25, 2011, 03:22 PM

    Sex is not recreation.
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    May 25, 2011, 04:01 PM

    Well, YOU are just her piece on the side. She HAS a boyfriend to have sex with regularly--and HE is going to be her first choice.

    Sorry, you're stuck on HER schedule, and you're not going to have sex as often as YOU want it. You're going to have sex as often as her boyfriend wants a new video. Which might be once a year, for all you know.

    So yes--you're asking too much. You're not likely to get more, so if you don't like it, then perhaps you should look for a more stable and healthy relationship.
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    May 25, 2011, 05:03 PM

    A bit of a reality check:

    How many men is she playing games with besides you and her boyfriend?

    How positive are you that she doesn't have a disease or two?

    How much do you think she and/or her boyfriend are going to get from your 'performance'? Do you really think your name won't be used when it gets posted on-line?

    Your face isn't the only way that people would be able to identify you if they choose to.

    If she gets pregnant, you could be paying a pretty steep price for a bit of fun. Please don't try to say that you practice safe sex. No form of birth control is 100% effective.
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    May 25, 2011, 05:55 PM

    Yeah, you should not be asking for anything. She used you and you agreed to it.
    She wanted your penis for that one time probably, so get over it!
    I hope you used a condom
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    May 25, 2011, 07:19 PM

    No you are not FWB, you are her booty call, when she wants and how she wants, not a equal thing, She is on a personal but somewhat unusual thing where she has someone that likes to watch.

    I will assume you were using protection and also that you checked the video to be sure your face did not show ? Perhaps a mask? If not you may be a new Utube hit soon

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