What to do?

riyaa · May 21, 2011, 09:56 AM

My boyfriend met a girl without my information... and we are dating each other from past 1 year... is he cheating on me?? *** help

Curlyben · May 21, 2011, 10:01 AM

Depends what you mean by "meet".
If you are saying he cannot have female friends, other than you, then you are on a bad road..
Trust is the key here.

riyaa · May 21, 2011, 10:03 AM

If she is just a fren... why did he lie??

amicon · May 21, 2011, 10:16 AM

It would help if you could give us more details,please.

riyaa · May 21, 2011, 10:29 AM

He is my childhood friend... but we never noticed each other... now I am studying engineering and he is a doctor... I am staying in Bangalore and he is in Calcutta... last year when I went to my native I met him... and we started liking each other and now we are committed... but he met a girl... they are not friends... few months back he met her... and without informing me he met her... he discusses everything with his best friend... I got to know when I was checking his chat box... is he cheating on me... should I believe him?? don't want to face any problem in future... I am very emotional so... what am I suppose to do?

riyaa · May 21, 2011, 11:42 AM

I had some physical relation with my ex... when I was 19 years old... but we broke up... now I am 23 years old... and on the verge of getting married... should I tell this to my present boyfriend?

riyaa · May 21, 2011, 12:07 PM

Can I have your email id... I have some personal questions.. plzzz

Alty · May 21, 2011, 12:09 PM

Originally Posted by riyaa

can i have your email id...i have some personal questions..plzzz

This is a public forum. Asking for personal information isn't allowed.

I've asked the mods to move your post to it's own thread, as you're hijacking and piggybacking on this thread.

If you have a question, start your own thread, we're more then happy to answer it.

I'll also RIP this post since asking for personal info is against the rules.

Vakantie · May 21, 2011, 02:48 PM

Yes! Always tell the truth. Communication is everything.

Fr_Chuck · May 21, 2011, 05:04 PM

Why, while yes honestly is important, but also there is no reason to go into "details" either.

Has he asked you if you were a virgin ? Is he ? Does it really matter to anyone ?

riyaa · May 22, 2011, 03:24 AM

It matters... he won't be able to adjust with this fact... what to do.. is it OK if I hide it?

talaniman · May 22, 2011, 12:13 PM

I think until you know more of HIS intentions for the future, you keep things to yourself. Trust me, you don't need a guy who cannot handle everything about you, past, present, and future.

What happened with this other girl he met without your knowing??

riyaa · May 22, 2011, 11:01 PM

Don't know... but he is serious about us... we are serious... so should I tell him or not

Alty · May 22, 2011, 11:28 PM

No one can answer this for you. It's up to you. Do you want an honest relationship, or one based on lies? Do you really think you can hide it? If so, is that the best for your relationship?

When you first posted you were upset because he lied to you about a girl he met. Now you want to lie to him. So, it's okay for you to lie, but not him?

Sumitkumar7266 · May 22, 2011, 11:48 PM

May be you are over possessive and he do not wanted to hurt you.. You can not bind anyone to do the things what you want in a relationship.Trust and honesty are important in love.. It depends how you are behaving with him and ho much he is honest in the relationship.. My ex girl friend used to say every single thing to me,so I also started to tell everything to her because of her honesty.. you have to ask yourself all those things,what is missing in your relationship and why he did like this.There is no harm to talk with him regarding this but it should not be the fighting and putting blame on him.. Be calm and speak with him..

talaniman · May 23, 2011, 06:11 AM

Calm down and give it a lot of thought before you act out of impulse.

riyaa · May 23, 2011, 08:03 AM

Thanks people...

riyaa · Jun 7, 2011, 11:59 PM

Threads merged, and edited

We are in a relation from last 11 months... but he is changed... he doesn't care at all... his best friend keeps *****ng about me,, though I don't know this guy... he has deleted his best friend from his profile... but suddenly they became friends again... and he can live without me now... he is acting strange... I am damn serious about him... not able to study,, feel like crying 24*7... I spoke to him... was trying to adjust.. but nothing is working out... what am I suppose to do? *** help

talaniman · Jun 8, 2011, 08:35 AM

What does he tell you when you talk to him trying to adjust?

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