[Everyothertofu]

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl and I really like this guy that goes to my school and I think that possibly he likes me too. We are fairly good friends and have become even more so in the last couple of weeks.

Recently we have been texting every night until midnight (haha I hate texting but I don't mind with him) and talking at school as well (it is not as though our only conversations are over text). I think he likes me because he keeps saying that we should "hang out over the summer" and "hang out sometime outside of school".

However I don't know if he just wants to be friends or more than that. People I am friends with but don't even know about our developing relationship say that he likes me just from his body language and mannerisms but it is hard to tell when you are in the middle of everything... I am guilty of reading some of the online "signs that a guy likes you" and such but I am really not sure what to think because he is kind of a flirty guy in general, not a player but he just flirts a lot.

Yesterday we went to go get ice cream together---just the two if us---and hung out for an hour and a half or so just talking. Because it was just the two of us I am inclined to say that it was a date but because he didn't say anything to indicate that it was I am not sure.

One of my close friends says that I should take my gay guy friend up on his offer to ask the guy that I like if he likes me but I am not sure if this is a good idea because so many things could go wrong.

How do I find out his feelings for me without admitting my feelings for him?

Sorry that that was kind of long, I felt that a couple things needed to be explained to give a background.

Update:
So today I said to him, "Oh that was really fun the other day we should do that again sometime" and he immediately asked me what I was doing this weekend, then said that we should definitely hang out this summer. When I mentioned that this weekend I was hanging out with my best friend he said, "Well we could all hang if you wanted"... is he just interested in my personal life (e.g. friends, who I hang out with on a daily basis) or was he uncomfortable hanging out alone... just him and I? He also brought up some random details about my friend that I had told him previously. I am wondering whether anyone thinks that he could be digging for the start of something romantic in this relationship (get to know m friends so that they can support the potential relationship) or just wants to get to know me better as a friend. I understand that it is possible that a good frienship between us could lead into something more but also that it could extinguish the "spark" or perhaps anything romantic between us. That was developing. I am uncomfortable just being friends because it seems like this exact situation has happened to me before with another guy I cared about except he only thought of me as a friend and I ended up getting my heart broken. Last time I did exactly the thing that you are suggesting, I came right out and told him how I felt, but I got rejected. This is the root I think of my fear of rejection. The guy that I currently like was "dating" another girl for a DAY before she broke up with him and I think that perhaps he is afraid of getting rejected as well. I guess what I really want to know is if anyone thinks that he COULD (strong evidence?) like me more than a friend and this could give me the confidence that I need to tell him that I like HIM.

[Alty]

If you really like him then don't be afraid to tell him. The only one that really knows how he feels about you is him. Any other source of info is unreliable.

I know it can be scary. The fear of rejection is great. The fact is, you will have to face rejection sooner or later in your life. We all do. Avoiding situations where you might get rejected will only hold you back in life.

So ask him. Tell him that you really like him, you have fun talking to him, you'd like to go out with him, but you're not sure how he feels.

He may be just as scared to tell you how he feels.

[talaniman]

Honesty is the best policy, and Alty's very tactful approach is a good one. Or you could wait until he gets up the courage to tell you how he feels.

He is probably just as afraid of rejection as you are, but neither of you will know anything, until one of you takes the risk.

[mmresd]

Ask, it is the only way to know. If he says no, then you are right where you are now, so nothing was lost, but if he says yes, you can start a relationship with the guy who you like.

Good Luck,
Javi

[diordoll]

Most guys don't want to make friends with girls, has been my experience. Sure they want to chill with girls if they happen to be around but he makes a point in saying "let's chill over the summer and out of school" going out of his way to say that and want to be with you. He likes you. If he didn't then he wouldn't bother saying that. The way we used to find out if a boy liked us was that we'd go through our friends to find out and vise versa. It's totally cool for your "gay" friend to find out if he likes you, but I say he definitely DOES and that you don't have to go that far. Also he won't necessarily know that you like HIM if you're friend talks to him on this subject unless your friend tells him you do. Do you? In any case I bet he's going to ask your friend if you do so be prepared for that. I think it's all good.