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Melissa91410 · May 14, 2011, 08:25 PM

I started dating this guy in September and I broke up with him when I found out he had another girlfriend living an hour away from where we live so he doesn't get to see her often but when I confronted him about it he denied it all but I know for a fact he's been with her since June even his cousins told me but then after we broke up he went out with this ugly girl that was supposly my friend she asked him out then he went to another cou try for a 3 week vacation when he came back they had broken up & he started talking to me again & he told me he loved me and so I was like okay ima give him another chance but then we broke up again & we stopped tlking for like a month until one day he decided to talk to me again while I was talking to his cousin & so since we were talking again I asked him if he could help me out with a dance were creating for a party & he said yes and now he acts like were going out because he says he loves me and all & he invites me to go out with him and he's always texting me but I haven't brought up the other girl which he's still w/ but he's basically cheating on her with me and she has been told he's cheating on her but she doesn't believe it but I mean he has cheated on her with like 5 girls.. But now I can't really take it anymore because he says he loves me but he's still with her sooo I don't know? :confused:

Homegirl 50 · May 14, 2011, 08:31 PM

Confused? You should be angry and disgusted. He has cheated on you he is now cheating with you and your relationship has been on again off again since the beginning.
He does not love you. If he did he would not be cheating on his girl friend with you. He'd be with you.
He knows he can come and go with you.

Melissa91410 · May 14, 2011, 09:20 PM

I mean yess I'm angry!! & he doesn't think I know about the other girl but if he doesn't love me bkuz he's cheating on me does that mean he doesn't love the other girl either since he treats her like his ***** instead of his girlfriend?

Homegirl 50 · May 15, 2011, 07:12 AM

It means he is using and lying to both of you. He is treating you both the same, the one difference is, she is his girl friend, you are his side piece. A man who loves a woman does not treat her with such disrespect. This guys does not respect either of you.
Is the same girl he cheated on you with in the beginning?
Why are you still with this guy? Leave him alone.

Jake2008 · May 15, 2011, 08:34 AM

Do you agree with his definition of 'love'? If so, be prepared for heartache, lying, cheating, excuses, and being used when he decides on you one week, instead of somebody else.

This is not love. Time to set your standards a little higher for yourself, and don't settle for such a loser.

He's a player.

And he's not available if he already has a girlfriend anyway. Three (or more in this guy's life) never works out.

DoulaLC · May 15, 2011, 08:53 AM

If you want to date him, fine... but don't kid yourself thinking it is going to be exclusive. He is happy to date different people. Nothing wrong with that as long as it is understood by everyone involved. In his case, however, he has girls thinking it's not happening and that they are the only one he is spending time with. This is not in anyway what love is, no matter how many times he says it to you.

If you want to be with someone who is just dating you, then this guy is not the one. Don't listen to what he says (he will tell you what he thinks you want to hear), instead look at what he does. Is that what you want in a relationship?

If not, let him know you are no longer interested and move on.

amicon · May 15, 2011, 10:24 AM

Actions speak louder than words-he cheats,he lies;time to let him live according to his life style while you go live your life-without him in it.

Fr_Chuck · May 15, 2011, 10:36 AM

He wants to date many people, except he wants to lie and make each think they are the only one

He is just wants to cheat and do what he wants. If you allow it, you are no better than the other girls that was cheating on you

Melissa91410 · May 15, 2011, 09:00 PM

Trueee& umm I was his girlfriend I just broke up with him because I found out about the other girl & I am just going to ignore him when he tries talking to me from now on.. I told His so called "gf" about what he's been doing if she believes it or not that's on her I'm doneee(:

amicon · May 16, 2011, 12:35 AM

Then keep moving on and don't look back.