[kboud]

Hi, I am new here and the reason I am here is because I need some help. I have spent the last year working to beat colon cancer, and I am getting ready to go for another major surgery in a week 1/2. My problem is ny soon to be 19 year old daughter, she is now four months pregnant with twins. She lives in my house with her 20 year old boyfriend who is responsible and wants to support her and the babies, he took out a loan for her a few months back for her to buy a car, she spent the money and has no car, ($3000.00 loan). My husband and I are letting them stay here to try to save some money so they can get their own place before the babies arrive. A few nights ago while my husband was away on a business trip she started an argument with her boyfriend and I and became very abusive, she started hitting us, screaming etc, I called the police, they came and got everyone calm and left. She swears at us when she gets angry and slams the bedroom door in our faces. I don't know what else to do but something needs to be done and I need advice asap.

Thank you

[Fr_Chuck]

Kick her out if you don't want her in your home ?

She believes because of her situation she can do and act like she wants and get away with it.

I have had and still have a strict rule, my house my rules, your rules, your house,

I have had my boys sleep in their cars many a night or live out of flop houses for a while when they found their clothes in garbage bags on the front porch.
They learned the value of their money, since living with someone else, people normally don't save that money theyare suppose to be saving anyway.

Be glad to help watch the babies after they are born when she WORKS, if the boyfriend is also working.

And the police actually broke the rules by not arresting someone, if there is evidence of force used in a domestic fight, the police are required by rules to make an arrest.

[cherylporkey]

Your daughter needs to grow up. Children have it to easy. Maybe she needs to be out in the real world. Our children have no respect for other adults. Why is that? Have we given them too much. They seem to forget other peoples needs also. Here you are ill and your daughter can treat you like that. How is she going to be with the babies when they arrive? Moms take the blunt of all the problems for which our children have. I think your daughter needs to be taught a lesson on behavior. You should let her move out. Is there a reason that she is not working at this time. Being pregnant does not mean she can't do anything. Good Luck with her. Start laying down some tough laws. Stick to your guns.

[wanna smile]

Im sure you don't want to kick her out!! That is your child and she is carrying your grandchildren and yes she maybe doing the wrong thing by you and her boyfriend but she is still your daughter and I am a mum and have a daughter that is only 16 and she come home and said she was also pregnant and her boyfriend was a loser! And a lot of bad things came along with him but she's my daughter and no matter what I could never kick her out!! She did some very hurtful things to us but my door was always open for her , she sadly lost the baby! And he's gone too thankfully, I think you should try to reason with her and try to get her mind on the babies and what it will take to raise those little darlings and keep her focused on how excited you are to be a grandma, Im sure the whole mum thing will make her grow up awfully quick! And when the time comes and she has 2 little lives depending on her she will know that it was hard for you to call the police on her and you love her, I agree that it is your home and she should have more respect but also she's pregnant and her hormones are running riot on her... I wish you all the best and a big kiss to your little grandchildren be happy she has been able to have them and she hasn't had to go through what my daughter went through!