[Oplimme]

I'm going to keep this short.

I've been seeing the same person for the past three years.
We're each other's first every things except...
First kiss.

Aside from that, they'd never had any type of serious relationship or sexual encounter before. None. Just some kissing, touching, a coup,e of times where they would French kiss with the tongues.

A first I couldn't have cared less about these escapades. They didn't bother me.

Now they do, for some reason. I don't know why, I didn't care and now I do. I think they call it "retroactive jealousy".

I want to move on, honestly I don't care. But obviously I'm lying to myself or else's I wouldn't be typing this question.

How exactly do you get over this sort of past thing? It's so silly, at least I found someone who was a virgin at the same time as I, and we were each other's first every things in all other departments so why am I being so insecure? I don't get it!

Just an edit: the thought of other people having touched them the same way I do makes me feel undervalued or our relationship equivalent. I hate feeling this way but I do.

[mmresd]

It is a feeling everyone has at some point with their partner, considering that this is your first real relationship then it is normal that you don't know how to handle it. Everyone deals with that type of thing in a different way, you just have to learn how to do it. It will die down after a little bit, is not that big of a deal, just try not to think about it, find better things to do with your time and eventually you won't care anymore.

Good Luck,
Javi

[talaniman]

You deal with your own feelings and cope with them in positive ways, and not give in to any bad behavior that makes you say or do things on impulse. Sure we all have those feelings, but consider, no matter what happened before you, make things happen the right way NOW!!

The feelings will fade if you don't dwell on them, or act weird about them. That's the key to remember, that maybe you can't control what feelings you have, about anything. But you darn sure can control what you do about them! Stay cool, calm, collected, and in control of yourself, and your actions.

Always think before you act, or speak, and don't be so hard on yourself, you are an inexperienced virgin who knows little about the way things work in love, romance, and lust, so you have to learn.

JUST LIKE THE REST OF US!!

[sharper11]

What was done in the past, before you, should not effect you. You are the person he/she is partners with now. Letting your relationship degrade over something out of your control (and theirs even) isn't going to get you anything but a failed relationship.

Is this person your first "everything"? If so, that may be the cause of your jealousy. But still not your partners fault. If not, think about how unfair you are being.

Just let it go. And if you can't, do not point the finger at your partner. They are not to blame and have no reason to "explain" their actions.