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great1 · May 4, 2011, 06:55 AM

I don't know what to do now , usually iknow if he's madd , sadd , or happy etc but that day idid not know that person anymore ; and ifeel like breaking up with him but my heart won't let me and ipray about it everyday.. . Ijust leave my relationship in Gods hands and the night he was someone totally different . I'm soooo confused . I don't know what to do , ilove him so much and all but ican't do this. . And his birthday is on march 6 , does that have to do with his zodiac sign or something.. . I don't know what to do , ireally don't I sacrificed a lot for him and all and this is the first out of our 7months of dating of me seeing this reaction.. . What do ido ; do icontinue this because that's what I'm doing , idon't back down nor do igive up.. . ijust pray about it and leave it in Gods hands .what could be going on with him that he's acting like this , imean I don't know

DoulaLC · May 4, 2011, 01:16 PM

>>>>>>icalled him monday night and he was talking to me ask if iwas his friend or what ever telling me that he had to take a shower or whatever and isaid imma call youu back when youu get out and he said "imma be busy when iget out of the shower" all iasked is what are youu going to be doing that has to stop youu from talking to me ; knowing me ihad an attitude while iwas talking to him . . . he was like "just know that imma be busy simple as that" now igot real madd and was like why are youu talking to me like that , why youu being so harsh etc ? he was like "your the one that said to keep it real and thats what im doing" and while he was talking isaid youu know what "okayee whatever" and thats what isaid and hung up on him while he was talking . he texted me back and said "don't call me back again !!!!!!" and iwas going to call him back to but he texted me that and itexted and said goodnight. . .

This is likely part of why he said you were pushing him away... you are trying too hard to make him feel how you want him to feel, think how you want him to think, and say what you want him to say. When he doesn't follow the script you have played out in your head, you are disappointed and start to question why you didn't get the response that you wanted.

Consider this... maybe God is trying to tell you that this guy is NOT the one for you and it's time to let it go, but you just aren't paying close enough attention to all the signs. You are still trying to make it what YOU want it to be.

Forget the zodiac, forget how much you feel you have sacrificed, and pay attention to what the guy is telling you. Leave the guy alone... stop trying to figure it out. If the relationship was meant to be, it wouldn't be so difficult.

great1 · May 5, 2011, 08:58 AM

How about if he is the one and God is putting me threw this to see if ican handle it or not ; like there's a lot of signs.. . Because they say that couples do go threw there hardest times in there relationship and there are times when youu want to leave but youu just can't give up and that's what I'm trying to do ; is not give up and leave it in Gods hands - "am i doing the right thing ?" I don't know what to do or say , there are times when iwant to text him and say we need space but iknow how he is going to react to it , he would not understand it take it the wrong and think that he got his heart tared up or something.. .

Iput a status up on Facebook about being hurt etc and isaid "with pain iwill always be there no matter what" and a lot of people liked it even HIM.. . What does that tell you ?

DoulaLC · May 5, 2011, 02:47 PM

It tells me he probably likes knowing you will be there when he feels like talking to you, regardless of how he treats you.

What does his not talking to you, texting you to tell you not to call him back again, still being mad over a childhood friend (that you only speak to a few times a year), and you feeling bothered and annoyed by his behavior (which hasn't changed), tell you?

It is wonderful that you are leaving this in God's hands, but there is an old saying, "Call on God, but row away from the rocks". Put your trust in God, but that doesn't mean you don't do your part. God expects you to think for yourself.

It appears you have not heard what you were hoping to hear, so all I can say is give it some time and see what happens. After awhile, you will hopefully be able to decide what would be the best course of action for you to take.

great1 · May 6, 2011, 05:26 AM

Lately ihave felt in peace , istill miss him and all but ifeel like this situation has been lifted off my shoulder I don't know , itold my cousin last night ifeel like everything is okayee like I don't know "why am ifeeling like that" like nothing never happened or there's nothing going on ?/ the bracelet that he gave me iaways had a hard time taking it off now today itook it off imean its bothering just a little bit at the fact that itook it off but not as much as it did when itried taking it off ! So what are the signs ?

And thanks for your advices !

talaniman · May 6, 2011, 06:45 AM

It could be you are tired of thinking about HIM, and want to think about other things.

great1 · May 6, 2011, 11:41 PM

Well me and my boyfriend I don't know what's up . Iwent on his Facebook page today and seen a girl write this on his wall "omg dude we got sooooooo close recently ! your so sweet and funny and cute :D we haveeeee to hang out a.s.a.p ! ily" like seriously !/ imean itexted him earlier on today telling him that imiss him and all and he texted me back and said "that was nice" ; also itold him that iwas hurting he said he was toooo ; but how youu hurting and youu have a female write some CRAP like that on your wall?/ - does he want me to see that so ican break up with him or something.. . because he's still madd over the childhood friend etc.. . And threw out the text iasked him "do you want your space"or "do youu want to end it how it is" he said "idk" like seriously ikept asking him "do youu want to be in a relationship he says again "do youu want to be in a relationship he says again " and I don't know either like does he want to break up or stay together because every time iasked he said "IDK" - what does that mean?

Wondergirl · May 6, 2011, 11:50 PM

everytime i asked he said "IDK" - what does that mean ? ?

It means he is stringing you along. Why are you allowing that? Don't you have any pride?

DoulaLC · May 7, 2011, 04:09 AM

great1... take him off your Facebook. It will only cause you pain and more confusion to see what he or someone else might write on it.

Think about the responses you have received when you have texted him that you miss him or asking if he wants to be in a relationship with you. Do they sound like that of someone who wants to be with you??

Is he treating you the way you want to be treated by a boyfriend? Sure doesn't sound that way to me.

Face it, if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Period.

Now leave him alone, unfriend him from your Facebook, and stop texting him.

This was another relationship for you to learn from. Now you have even a better idea of what you wouldn't want in your next boyfriend.

You are both young... time to get to know more people.

talaniman · May 7, 2011, 07:31 AM

Why are you still doing this to yourself? I just don't understand why you cannot see that while he may miss what you once had, he is hardly sitting in a corner worrying about it. He has other options and opportunities to occupy his time from this break up, while you do everything to keep that past memory alive and well in your own head.

Like you finally took that bracelet off, do the same thing with everything to do with him, and start explore your own options, and opportunities, so you can stop being stuck on someone that's not as stuck as you.

I don't know is a statement of NO!! That's what it means! Dwell no more on what he means as his actions are very obvious, and apparent. You just don't want to ACCEPT IT.

great1 · May 10, 2011, 05:52 AM

Ijust found out that he was a pisces and I'm a capricorn.. . Idid my research on pisces , and everything that ihave read it was like someone writing about him.. . Like iwas shocked because everything that ihave been through with him iread it on my research , it said they are very confusing people I don't know but ifelt shock to just know , its like now ihave so much research on him.. . but yeah I'm not really stuck on him like that any more but like isaid ileft it in Gods hands to handle if he comes back he just does but if he don't I don't know - its time to move on !/ But igave him his space also soooo , were giving each other time right now! But on the mean time what do ido ?

JudyKayTee · May 10, 2011, 06:07 AM

I'd start by not putting faith in horoscopes and birth signs.

In the meantime you go on with your life and, as you said, trust that God will put things right.

talaniman · May 10, 2011, 06:25 AM

You live your life and be happy with what you do, and enjoy doing it with friends and family, and appreciate the things that are good on your life.

DoulaLC · May 10, 2011, 03:12 PM

Forget the horoscope.

Spend time with friends and family. Focus on school, get him off your Facebook, enjoy not having the frustration of what he may or may not be thinking. Try something new that you have always wanted to do... a new hobby, new sport, etc. Move on with your life.

great1 · May 16, 2011, 04:40 AM

So were taking a break in our relationship now . And he told me that this love that we had was true . He said that he is going through a lot right now and he wants to take a break but he said that we were going to get back together . What do ido from here ?

JudyKayTee · May 16, 2011, 05:30 AM

You take a break and believe what he tells you.

In the meantime you go on with your life and stop obsessing over him.

great1 · May 16, 2011, 07:17 PM

Believe in a good way or a badd way ?/

DoulaLC · May 16, 2011, 07:39 PM

Leave him alone... he doesn't want to be with you. Move on with your life and spend time with your friends. Sooner or later you will meet someone new who actually treats you the way you want to be treated.

He says what he says to either keep you hanging on (which so far has been working quite well because you simply won't let it go), or because he won't be honest with you and tell you that it is over.

He has obviously moved on (you just won't accept that)... it is now time for you to do the same. This was a learning experience for you... there is someone much better out there that you will meet someday.